i know you do. i'm sorry that you do on the only plus side, OM is out of the picture and he made it easy for me to be the more attractive choice. W said he's a piece of [censored] and a coward so.........
someone once told me "it could always be worse"
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
maybe i'm crazy, but I still want her to come back, for the right reasons of course (not because she's pregnant and alone)
will gladly raise the child as my own.......
You are quite a man then. Just wanted to stop by and give you some (((hugs))) and see how things are today?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Wow, just dropped by your thread when I read the title. I'm so sorry. Hang in there...I'm not going to say it's easy because it's not. It's really sad to see that there are many of us in this situation.
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Its a drag knowing that there is a pregnancy within a marriage that isn't between the two that are married. I so get it.
Me too. Mine was one step worse in the fact that X and I tried to get pregnant for years before he started his affair. He got OW pregnant while we were still married. That was like a dagger through the heart.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
I just wanted to lend my support for your chosen path. I admit there is no way I could do what your doing. The anger, resentment and just plain old spite would never let me be as supportive or forgiving of her as you are. I don't honestly know if it is the right thing your doing but that is your decsion and b/c of that I support you.
Take care of you first! You have to survive this in the end no matter what the outcome. Remember that.
Be well,
Vorlon
M: 50, W: 48 M: 26 yrs S:25, D:24, S:20, D:19 Hard at work on my marriage everyday! There is hope, there is life, it is the only life we have....
taking care of myself is a done deal. I could have been nasty about all this, but that isn't me. She's the mother of my child and for 9 years she was the best thing to happen to me. We hit a huge road block, whether she comes back or not, she is my best friend and I won't let her do this alone. (not rescuing of course)
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
maybe i'm crazy, but I still want her to come back, for the right reasons of course (not because she's pregnant and alone)
will gladly raise the child as my own.......
You're not crazy. I try to put myself in your shoes, but I can't. I'd like to believe I'd feel the same way...and a child is innocent, but what if the child always reminded me of her unfaithfulness?
I think you are right..."if she came back for the right reasons". That would be the hardest part; actually knowing whether it was because she wanted you or because she didn't want to be alone. If the opportunity presents itself, don't jump with both feet....suggest you are open to the possibility, but she needs to work on herself to determine if it's because she loves you and wants the marriage to work. You deserve nothing less if you are to take on this responsibility.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
on the only plus side, OM is out of the picture and he made it easy for me to be the more attractive choice. W said he's a piece of [censored] and a coward so.........