I agree, there are glimmers here. I think that maintaining the picture of couple-hood for family and friends is positive, altho frustrating for you, I'm sure. The fact that he is being kind is huge--and it sounds like genuine kindness, not just a facade. And it sounds as if he does enjoy your company, and friendship is a necessary first step. I hope for a Christmas miracle for you!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012