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wedding crasher!!! wooo hooo!!!

i think it is hard for you to not put your work first- a lot of times females can get very wrapped up in their careers and try to be like males in that regard....it sort of doesnt work that way and can realy cause a deficit in the marriage when you are competing for attention with your H. im not saying we cant have careers- i do...but you just have to be careful as to what is most important.

so maybe she will see that getting her law degree is good but it isnt the real answer....in the meantime you are being so loving towards her it is amazing! casual friends is the key

Well guys today was an interesting day and I need to let a few things out because I can’t tell her. Today would have been one of those days where I come home with an uneasy smile on my face and just hold her in my arms for as long as I could, and she would know with out speaking that there was a very good chance that I may not have come home and we would eventually talk it out.

I have always taken the position that I don’t want to shield her from any of the realities of the job therefore tell her everything. She seems to be very appreciative of that and it helps to know that things do go wrong but we can manage them. Some spouses are different and insist that the bad stuff is never discussed in front of them.

A few months ago we lost someone at work and although we did not know him she was devastated, then a buddy of mine had a close call but was uninjured and she was again devastated. Today was my turn. Bottom line I am safe, but it was a S*$T ton of luck and very good timing that kept me that way because this had absolute potential to not end this way.

I know that for myself talking to her would help, but I know that I would not be good for her. I wish I could say look how easily I could be gone do you really want to go to my funeral this way, but of course I can not, nor would not say that. I know that she could not handle this now but keeping it from her seems wrong. Maybe it’s just different because everything is different right now.

I did have a good talk with my little brother, who is a combat vet and has to face death him self a time or two so that was good. Plus it was one hell of a learning experience. You wish it was smooth sailing all the time but if it is not going to be at least you and every one around you had better learn from the mistakes. All part of the fun I geuss!!

Name this movie: “the defense department wishes to inform you that your sons are dead because they were stupid”

Topgunk

JWS, I'm exceedingly glad that you are safe.

Dan

(((JWS)))) my heart is with you. what a scary day at work- JEEZ! i thought i had it rough with my crazy parents and brother.
nothing compared to what you do for us everyday!

what can you do to make yourself feel better? do you think you could tell your W? i know when my H hurt himself during this process i was so peeved he didnt tell me...but thats a diff story.

i am so happy you are safe.

maybe someday over a beer but I am not going to call her during her long day at school and say o BTW

:o)

right on Dan but I owe you a beer because quoting "the movie" is such bad taste. although I would bet that even if they won't admit it most pilots of my age are here because of that movie.

i cant figure the movie out-
and i agree with you about telling your W now...time needs to be right! you seem very clear JWS...

you must feel so adrenaline rushed right now, yikes.

JWS, I'm so glad you're OK! Man, how scary.

JWS

I don't really know what to say. That must have really shook you up and I'm really glad you are ok!

Thanks all for the support!! back in the saddle today and no craziness so all is well. I will not get to go to New Orleans after all. that is a real bummer. it would have been a ton of fun, but now we will have to work twice as hard her to get done what we had all set up to do there. o well. I have decided that mentally I am still on vacation for another week and a half. I may be stuck here but I am going to enjoy it and have little contact with my W as if I were gone. her a few encouraging texts over that last few days but nothing back. o well was not excepting anything so its all good.

What kind of fun things does every one have for the Weekend, I am currently trying to decide what direction I will blow in.

there are always fun festivals...i love all types of festivals. i am called the festival hunter.

pet festival, art, music, shopping, mustard, who knows!

what festivals do you have in your area?