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JACKASS.

"That's the kind of thing you need to ask," he said.

"That's the kind of thing you have to actually BE here to ask," she replied, and walked away, looking hot as ever.

Puppy

I'll concur with the above: Your H is a "jackass."

(((Karen))),

He has some nerve dictating to you how things should be handled now since he was awol with OW while you were facing this mishap and the dangers of this bad storm. I think you need both the bat and the broomstick for H.

That's the kind of thing I never think to say or if I do it's half hour later!!!! I did try to look hot today. For some reason, I've been enjoying wearing tank tops & shorts and stuff when H is over (well it is really hot in FL)!!! Karen

Ok, missing the kids a bit today which is ridiculous b/c I see them so much of the time! I called H's cell to talk to them but he didn't pick up. Maybe they are at the movies or something and he's not just being rude. My plan was to call 2 or 3 times today and try to get hold of them, like late afternoon and maybe tonight before bed. If he doesn't let me talk to them I will add that to my journal. I know my therapist said they like to give custody to the parent that allows more access (which would be me). If he gets custody there is no justice in the legal system!!!

Ok, something that has been worrying me the past week or so is I think I'm going crazy (well, maybe I'm already there) . Sometimes when I'm feeling strong I think I'm going to meet a wonderful person who will be a great role model for the kids and I'll be better off, and then in my lower moments I'll think I'm going to be alone forever and be a crazy cat lady with 50 cats (not that there's anything wrong with that, and I already have one cute cat), but not what I was really hoping for in life!

I can't imagine you alone for long. you are going to find some wonderful guy that just worships you and gives as much as he gets.

kat

Thanks Kat! Right back at ya!

H dropped off the kids this am before church. It was H's turn to take them to church, but he probably doesn't feel very Christianlike this week I guess, so they went with me. He was in full Disney Dad mode the last 2 days with them. D8 came in and showed me her stuffed dragon he bought her (she's been wanting it the past month), a water toy, a watch, and a bracelet!!! S14 got a piggybank.

Do you think he's trying to buy their love or guilt or what? I told the kids that I wish I could buy all the stuff their dad does but they know I don't have the $$$, and I said it probably wouldn't be good to have 2 parents spoiling you like that anyway!!!

Oh, almost forgot to mention the kids told me H woke up today and made them pancakes--don't think he's ever done that before!!! Funny though b/c D8 told me they were almost as good as mine, and she told H that also!!! Karen

D8 just told me OW came along with them to the bookstore yesterday!!! I tried to act like I was calm and didn't say anything to her. OMG!!! I am trying not to hate him! I hope the L can do something (she is supposed to be back in office tomorrow). If not something now, hopefully this will help custody or something. He just spent 9 or 10 days with her on vacation and then he can't spend 2 days just with the kids! I guess I should be happy they haven't had any sleepovers, but I'm sure as soon as we actually get divorced that will be the next step. D8 just told me she came over to his apartment and spent time there also and brought the kids lemonade and candy. Karen

Karen,
Ugggghhhh. I feel your pain. It's like they try to see how much farther they can stick the knife and twist. Although, I'm sure they don't see it that way.

Just remember you are a wonderful mom! If my memory serves me right, she lacks in that department doesn't she? Isn't she the one that is more career oriented than mom oriented. We all know that being a mom and dad are the most important jobs in the world, one that you excel at!

Hugs, Yoyo

Thanks Yoyo! Yeah, she's the attorney and works or used to work a lot of hours. Then spent the rest of the time with H or texting him. Apparently her H is the one that was always with her kids, so she doesn't seem very mom-oriented. But to be honest she and my H are maybe a good match like that, more self-oriented than kid-oriented. Karen

((((Karen))))

I totally understand getting my feathers ruffled over exposing the children to the OP. In fact that sets me off more than the adultery -- er, well, then again, it's because of the adultery that I don't want my kids exposed to such low-life scum-bags.

All these WAS exposing their kids to OPs, I just want to punch their lights out!

(calm, NCB, stay calm.)