Thanks Lola, I really hesitated to post this because my R with my W is the only relationship that I've ever been in and I feel like I must be missing something.
After reading what Fish had to say and some of his old thread, I thought that everyone was right to jump his case and then he confirmed it with his update. He basically went from his W to her best friend and it sounded to me like for the last 7 months has been with the BF. I would never say that was a good idea.
I'm not sure that Sawks is making the right choice. I felt like the conversations were missing out on some possibilities besides following after Fish.
I don't think the idea is that you HAVE to be alone. I think it's just about knowing who you are alone. When you've spent YEARS being a "we", you can easily lose sight of "me". That's what marriage is about. It's about being a "we". So, when you're blindsided into a "me" you may not be comfortable, and may go looking straight for the next "we" to put you back into your comfort zone.
Boy, I don't know if that makes any sense or not. I didn't sleep much last night.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
I don't think the idea is that you HAVE to be alone. I think it's just about knowing who you are alone. When you've spent YEARS being a "we", you can easily lose sight of "me". That's what marriage is about. It's about being a "we". So, when you're blindsided into a "me" you may not be comfortable, and may go looking straight for the next "we" to put you back into your comfort zone.
Boy, I don't know if that makes any sense or not. I didn't sleep much last night.
yep sure does.. and i am super sleepy too.. get some sleep!!
Get some sleep. Well, it's only 5pm. Time for me to leave work! Was NOT productive today, but hopefully I'll perk up some tomorrow. Emotions and hormones are putting me in a snit!
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Get some sleep. Well, it's only 5pm. Time for me to leave work! Was NOT productive today, but hopefully I'll perk up some tomorrow. Emotions and hormones are putting me in a snit!
I have been watching movies with ng the last 2 nights, 2 late nights, tonight will be a 8PM bedtime ..lol
Get some sleep. Well, it's only 5pm. Time for me to leave work! Was NOT productive today, but hopefully I'll perk up some tomorrow. Emotions and hormones are putting me in a snit!
Today was productive.. now the gym awaits.. then... bed
