I think about my H most all the time. It's so hard not to!!! I am doing some better.
Journaling:
Today I get a phone call from my ins. agent. He told me that he had been waiting on my H to send some papers back to get him off our ins. auto & homeowners. So, he wanted me to send him an email to say cancel him off as far back as I could b/c they didn't want to cover him in another state & they could get some money back for me for the policy. I was honest & told him that my H had paid me for his auto ins. in March & I had paid the total for both vehicles, he said we could let him stay on it until Sept. 17th. He sent my H that email & also told him that his name had been removed from the homeowners policy since there was a change in mortgage on July 10th. Basically, that answered all my H's statements he had sent me earlier this month.
My H sent the agent a nasty note saying that he didn't know his ins. was going to be canceled so soon & thought he had until Sept. 17th & had gotten some more ins. quickly & wanted the remaider of his premium sent to him. The agent explained to him that since he moved out of state, I became named insured and owner of the auto policy after the D. So any premium issues have to be taken up with me & not them. He also said that his cancellation will occur on September 17, 2008 unless I authorize otherwise and no refund will be forthcoming.
He told him he could hold his other policy until Sept. so I don't know what he will do. It sounds like he may have to contact me. My agent blind copied me on the emails, my H used a different email address which I thought was interesting. I first thought it might be one from work but the joint email they use is gmail & I assume his work would be the name of the place since it is a large facility & the email he was using was gmail account but in his name only.
The agent also told me my H wanted him to write him a policy, but the agent said he couldn't being in another state.
I hope he doesn't email me from his joint email, I really do not want to respond on that one. Also if he were to call I'm not sure I want to talk to him either. If he had not M this OW I wouldn't care but I would be afraid he would tell me he M her & right now I really don't know what I would say to him.
I'm probably over thinking this, I just thought it was interesting, also he told the agent he had not had time to get another ins. co. He's had since the beg. of Aug. I always did that sort of thing for him, even before we got married. I guess he just figured he had over a month to do it. But when we changed ins. co. last year I did research for 2 months before I found someone.
Sorry I took up so much time here! I'm just typing & thinking at the same time.
Thank you all for listening. I'll let you know if I hear from him b/c I'll for sure need advice then. (((HUGS)))
No word from H on the ins. deal. My agent sent me an email that my H sent him & my H told him he was unprofessional & that he could rest easily know that he was going to report him to the board of insurance. It sounded like my H was really mad! I think it was all a miscommunication.
After the smart email he sent me saying he was cancelling ins. after Sept. 17th, he didn't realize until my agent told him that since he moved to another state that I was the insured, so I guess he didn't want to tell me anything about it.
Whatever!
My parents are here now so it has been good spending time with them.
If your H contacts you, I hope you interact well with him. Pray for wisdom and strength for it. I think it's interesting that he's using his own gmail account. Maybe the joint one was OW's idea...
I really don't expect him to contact me now since he didn't today at all. My only worries was that he would tell me he got M'd & I wouldn't know what to say. No way could I tell him congrats or be happy for him b/c I'm not. I still have not given up on him. I do have a feeling the joint email was the OW's ideal. I don't know if she has access to this other acct. or not but I too thought that was interesting. Right now I'm just not ready to talk to him.
My Dad told me he was glad that I had taken the pictures down of my H, he was tired of seeing his face! They are so angry & upset with him, but they also saw their baby hurt, plus they thought of him as a son so he has hurt everyone. I have to understand their point of view.
i am glad your parents are spending time with you. right now we are having a huge storm so i better close for now.
more tomorrow.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
NLT interesting about the gmail account. It sounds like ow doesn't have access to everything of your h's.
Yes if your h contacts you, you must pray for wisdom. For your h, yes things like the Ins issue happen when you get a D. So for your h NO need to get mad about it.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Yes, I am enjoying my parents being here with me. My Dad & I are learning a new trade, ha! I have 2 bay windows, one was already installed when we moved here & only has wood around it the other one my H installed & he put vinyl siding on it. So, the wood is right on the concrete of that other window b/c it used to be a carport so water is getting to it so we decided to put vinyl siding around it also. I helped my H when he did our other bay window but I don't remember a whole lot about it & my Dad didn't know how to do it either, but so far so good! It's taking us a while but I think it is going to look good & protect that wood from rotting out.
MWG, I hope everything is all right & it didn't get too stormy around you! I'll check your thread & see what is happening with your stitch.
Glam, I thought that was very interesting also that OW may not have access to everything. Last month when he sent me the alimony check he just wrote his last name on the return address, this month I got the check & it has his first & last name, like normal. After we got M when we sent child support to his 1st wife, we would put both our names on the return. It may not be anything to it, but I thought it was interesting. For him to get as mad as he did about that ins. I have a strong feeling he isn't that happy, if he is happy & something makes him mad he doesn't get that mad! He was furious sending that note to the ins. man telling him he was unprofessional & was going to report him to the board of insurance. He is not usually like that so I don't know if OW told him that or if he is just extremely mad, he has a temper but not quite that bad. My SIL told me he was really busy at work so I'm sure that is not helping any either. I have a strong feeling work is not like it was here, he had it made here but he is a project manager there & he never wanted to be a project manager again!!
We'll see what happens. He may be as happy as ever, I just don't know right now. I still haven't heard from him & I really don't think I will now.
I'm still praying, I haven't given up, in my heart I just can't right now. I have done a lot to this house lately that I think he would be impressed with, maybe one day he will see.
No, the storms went right around us. where my parents live (35 miles from us) they had 85mph winds and all we got was a little wind and lots of thunder and lightning. Nothing else. I am thankful really.
Looks like it might storm again tonight and all weekend.
Sounds like you are keeping busy with your parents which is always a good thing.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I'm so thankful the storms went around you. I live in an area where tornadoes are numerous at times. I hope your parents didn't get any damage.
I am keeping busy with my parents. My Mom works so hard all the time at their house, she is getting to rest a little here. Although she is helping keep the kitchen cleaned up & even cooked dinner tonight since my Dad & I were working so hard. My Dad is 80 years old but he is doing really good, he does get tired more easliy but I'm so thankful they are still in good health.
I do miss my H being here, usually he & my Dad would be doing stuff like we did today. Last year at this time we had gone to H's Mom's house to help clean it out to get it ready to sell since she had moved to an assisted living. I knew he was short with me that weekend & something was wrong, but I thought it was the fact that they were selling the house he grew up in. The very next week he told me he wanted a D. I can't believe it has been a year since he told me. I sure do miss him!!!
