I'm still chatting with him...but about D's party we want to have in the club in November. She turns 7 and we want to invite 5 or 6 little school friends to the club for a pool party...but the rule is that the pool cannot be reserved on a Saturday. We're trying to figure out how this kid managed to have his party at the pool on a Saturday.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Time to pull back and regroup. I won't initiate any activities for a while and give him time to pull back a bit too.
I've been reading some principles suggested in this book that I found interesting.
They're all pretty simple, but somehow when you see them listed they have more of an impact;
#19-There's nothing more prized to a man than something hae had to wait for, work for, or struggle a bit to get.
#20-As soon as a woman hands a man a more seriuos commitment on a silver platter, he'll be reluctant to take it.
#21-Don't be so blunt, obvious, or available that you come across as having made up your mind about the guy.
#22-You want to figure out his pattern, but don't let him figure out yours.
#23-Men are far more smitten when they feel like they are stealing your time away from something else you could have been doing.
#24-When a woman makes a man feel he's trusted, it makes him feel strong & worthy. It makes him want to be honorable & do the right thing.
I won't go thru all 75, but the common theme is mystery, confidence, keep it unpredictable, etc., all the things we pretty much already know, but somehow could use steady reminders along the way.
Sunny - I like those points. What book are you reading? It sounds interesting.
Jen - Ok I think you're doing it again. Does it really matter if he remembered about the pool party or not? Not really. Is it a little irritating? Probably. This is a good example of a instance when you need to drop it. Good job coming here and venting instead of questioning him to death.
Jen- just catching up a bit..sounds like it is fine w him wanting to go to a futbol game...i think he wouldnt go to that if he was pulling way far away...just a small pull back...that is just life...even when you are married happily there are times of pull backs....
it will be ok
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
I agree with all of the other posts. It doesn't sound like a backslide, or that you've gone back to the beginning. I don't have a lot to add, but I just want to add my reassurances to the others...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
