So glad to hear from you. You are going to be fine. Your house may be a little messier but you and the kids are going to be great. Do you have a timer on your washer? If so put a load in the morning and have it set to wash about an hour before you get home, then put in the dryer. Make a game with the kids with folding and putting away after dinner. Do the same kind of thing with the dishwasher, have it run overnight, or over the day if that works better.
You are going to find a routine that works for you. I am right there with you, trying to make a go of it with 4 little people that call me Mom.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
You sound like you are doing well and I am glad to hear it. I am sure your kids looked adorable getting ready for school. I am back at work myself. Having to face my students with a new name and my co-workers being informed that I am divorced. Lots of questions to answer from people who are concerned. But it is difficult.
Things will look up for you after Labor day.
Keep doing those things to help you GAL. And keep trusting in the Lord.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
W will definitely have a reality check smacked in her face when she starts back to work. She may be ready to talk, she may be ready to go to retrovaille, she may be ready to apologize.....I wonder if you'll be ready or even able.....
My advice is to pray and keep hope alive. You just never know.
It's been a while. But I've been reading your sitch for the past couple of months. I just haven't had much time to post. I was actually up in StLouie last month. Just some follow up counseling. It sounds like you are doing the best you can. I agree with WhatdidIdo, you never know what could happen. And even though you have so much distrust and anger of her, you never know what God's plan could be. You also can't deny the eventual awesomeness if your wife ever got her "hormones" fixed and became healthy again. I know its a long shot. But I like how you are a man of hope.
You are doing fine, man. Just make some friends. Keeping up with you, too. Thanks for keeping me in your thoughts. I think about everyone on here, too. Just damn unfair. So many good people that don't deserve what's going on. But we will find our peace.
I'm still trying to find mine.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Hi Jeff, I just wanted to see how you are doing. The first couple of weeks of school are always hectic but so sweet to watch the kids be so excited. I hope you are doing well.
Since you seem to like to be social(don't we all really), why don't you have pot luck dinners once a week or so. Everyone can bring something and you can even rotate houses if you want. Guests may be single, couples, bring a friend. Just do something to bring joy to yourself that gets your mind off of everything else.
I am thinking of you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hey Kat, everything is fine, not having any problems with kids - D9 is crabby in the morning, always has been. Other than that kids get up get dressed make their beds (as best they can) and come down for breakfest, next week I'll have to make their lunches before they leave.
W contacts me either by phone or e-mail everyday here is todays e-mail
When You're Down to Nothing, God is up to Something'
This angel is sent to you. You must send her to 8 people including me.
In 8 minutes you will receive something you have long awaited.
Have faith.
Of course I didn't send it back to her, I'm not talking to W and keeping all communication with her to a minimum. One more week of her taking kids to school, then I won't have to see her every morning.
Everyone keeps telling me, she is going to crash someday, especially when she doesn't get to see the kids. whatdidido posted this earlier and a number of friends say the same thing. I really don't know, we have been seperated for 3 months now and W hasn't once taken the kids for the weekend.
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Yes, your W I think is in MLC, so I do think they come out of that from what I've read but it can take a while, sometimes a long while. Do you think she even reads those emails she sends you as that is just weird, don't you think? Hope you're having a good day Jeff!!! Karen
I hate those chain emails! even when my friends/family send them I never send them back, those emails are annoying. Hmm, it'd take more than 3mths for her to crash, my stbx crashed after 8mths, but sadly it was a bad crashed that short circuited his brain, he is still a mess, some people never learn from their mistakes.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Karen: Yes, your W I think is in MLC, so I do think they come out of that from what I've read but it can take a while, sometimes a long while. Do you think she even reads those emails she sends you as that is just weird, don't you think?
I know it will take her a long time to come out of the MLC, and I won't be the same person I was when she left, I relized last night I have to get out from under this cloud, I took a good look at myself and things are going to have to change. I've been in surviving mode, just trying to get through all of this, now I need to get back to working on myself, softball was a good GAL but there is more work to do, I don't want to be a angry person, thats not very attractive. I know W reads the e-mails, she is trying sooo hard to be nice to me, trying to engage me in any type of communication, but I just ignor her and quietly go about my business.
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Cat:Hmm, it'd take more than 3mths for her to crash, my stbx crashed after 8mths, but sadly it was a bad crashed that short circuited his brain, he is still a mess
I do expect it to take some time, and its going to be ugly when it happens. I will do anything to help her that I can, but she will never step back into this house or my heart because I know she is not capable of doing the work that needs to be done to regain my trust, she could never do what whatdidido is doing.
Thank you all for checking in on me, you are all so nice to me. I post my thoughts, I post my problems, my feelings and you all respond and help and I do nothing for you, I take more than I give and I am sorry I don't post more. I do read your post, I know karen is going through the big storm in FL. I know H4H just went through the same thing I did with his W moving out. I know whatdidido is working hard on her relationship and I know Kat is looking forward to moving on and meeting a nice guy. I will make a better effort to post.
I'm scared to post to the new people here, because I know what they want (to reconcile) and It's always been black and white to me, give up OM/OW and then I'm open to reconciliation otherwise get out. Its the stubborn old German in me, thats how my post started New Abbreviation for everyone TSO = throw spouse out and I don't want to lead anyone away from reconciliation.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Karen