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You're being a pessimist sawks!!! Grrrrrr..lol

Regardless of why she is doing it...appreciate it! And say so!

Other than that, make a note of it as a positive. Don't let it lead to expectations. And time will tell.

Just got home, W was a real bitch to me for no reason at all. Our siligranite sink broke earlier when i dropped a stack of frozen hamburgers on it, it should be covered by new home warranty hopefully. But man she totally just reminded me why i am done.

I do, I thank her. She has to realize that we are separated because of her choosing so, if I choose to eat what she cooks fine, I appreciate it, if i decide to make myself something completely different.. she has nothing to say about it.

*ahem* While I realize it was an accident and should be covered by the warranty...I would say she did have a reason to be upset. She may have handled it badly, but she's entitled to be upset that it is broken.

Don't know what was said/done exactly, and what has been said/done since. But perhaps a quick note/e-mail/verbal "Sorry I got defensive (or whatever) last night. I was already upset because the sink was broken. I understand why you are/were upset too."???

The sink broke earlier, when she wasn't home it sounded like. Did you tell her it was broken, or just leave so that she found it that way? If so, perhaps a quick communication to say "sink is broken, will get it fixed ASAP" so that isn't surprised by it might work better?

Okay, no more chastizing.

Hope the rest of your week is going good.

I left her a voice mail to say it had broken, and then I called her back telling her I called the builder to come fix it.

This morning I got an email from her(she sent last night when i was sleeping)

Last night she also asked where our file folder was " I replied i am not sure" which i wasn't .. She had gone thru it and taken out everything pertinent to her. She left stuff for "my" car and "my" dog and "my" cat. and a few other things. Mortgage stuff was in there. Basically what I did is put it in the trunk of my car, and i was taking a section here and there to work, to see what i wanted to keep and what i wanted to throw out.
I thought i had removed it from the car and put it back in the spare room, where I sleep.

So the email says something like " i don't trust you, what are you hiding... blah blah blah".. should i get a lawyer blah blah blah.

Basically the longer we are in the house, the more annoying she is getting to me. She still thinks I drink, smoke, gamble. All of which I quit back in May, other than a once in awhile beer.

So in the reply email, i told her i was sorry the sink broke, yes i can be a klutz. I have nothing to hide, if she wants to know anything just ask.

She also accused me of calling her cousin the other day(who i get along very well with), and who had just returned from 3 weeks away. She said "why did you call her, when she was with me".. my reply" how am i supposed to know she was with you? Believe it or not, i am way past the point of worrying where you are , i know you don't believe it but i have moved on.

Anyways we shall see what the reply is.

Brutal.

Hmm sounds to me like she is noticing your detachment and it is freaking her out. She's not comfortable with you being okay on your own because she doesn't feel like she has as much control over the situation. It is making her uncertain/uneasy.

Which may work in your favor in the long run.

Time will tell.

Don't let her get to you. Just keep taking care of you.

just a small part of my email to her :

I don't need to track your every move, I am way past that, I have my own life to live now. I know you don't believe me but I have moved on. I have moved away from all my bad habits and into good ones, and I plan on sticking to that, it's a challenge somedays when I go out with certain friends, but I manage.
Did you ever receive the email I sent you? That email was from the bottom of my heart, and I meant what I said in it.