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((((Jen))))

I think the db coach is a great idea. I also really like Lola's idea and think I'm going to test it out for myself today.

Your xh loves you, that is has been evident to me from your posts all along. He has told you what he needs from you for things to work between you. I think for now, stop worrying about him, what he's doing, when he's coming over etc. Start working on you, and on your changes. Getting rid of your own inner demons. MHO, once you do this, things will be on a whole different track for you both.

((((Jen))))

Dan, I've told him that many times including last night. I need to show him.

Hi Amy, thanks! Yes I agree with you I need to "get off the mule" so to speak and just do what I need to do. I've been told this from the beginning of my sitch and have only really listened a little.

Only if you believe you are worth it.

Caoch thats a good way to put it. Thanks

Sometimes it takes us a while to really "hear". It took me over a year to really get what it was I needed to get.

Remember, you're doing this for YOU. This is going to make YOU feel better, make YOU happier, make YOU feel more in control of YOUR life.

Something I've always wanted to say: Right now, it's all about you.

So now is the time to be the good kind of selfish I guess.

You got it girl.

Its always hardest to forgive yourself...

My life is always surprising.

I asked XH about ds swimming lessons and he told me she's beginning today. He proceeded to tell me I have 2 choices today.

1. he drops D off home at 7pm as we had planned or
2. he'll pick me up around 5 and then leave me at the club with D while he has class. Then he'll pick us up from the club after his class.

Now, we could have proceeded with choice 1 and he wouldn't have had to have anything to do with me today or choice 2 where he has to be around me. Ok sure I can read into this but as I see it he could have stuck with choice 1 easily.