Wow, OW is a real piece of work huh? Hon, you sound a lot better when you haven't talked to him. Even when he was being nice and wanting to be your friend, you still sounded better to me when you weren't talking to him.
I think you need to give him a date to get his stuff out of the garage or it is going on the side of the road. Seriously, he has had ample time to get that crap out of there.
So you didn't answer my question from before.....where did you meet this cutie you have been hanging out with???
I agree with klm. Sometimes the best way to detach and heal is to take ourselves out of any chance for drama, and not seeing them is at the tope of the list.
Hopefully you can start to heal and get on with your life!
I just caught up with the latest. I know you want to be friends with your xh, but he's not the same man you used to know. Give him time to return to his former self before moving ahead with a friendship. Otherwise, I'm afraid this cycle will continue. I don't want your heart broken over and over again.
And I agree with Beth and Kris - give him a deadline to get his stuff out of your garage. Tell him it's getting donated to the Salvation Army if it isn't out by 12:00 p.m. on ______ __, 2008.
Stay strong, Sara. I'm incredibly proud of how far you've come.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Sara, I came over here to find you and see how you are doing..I'm sorry that X H is still getting to you..I predict that he and OW will not last and that he's probably quite miserable. I think in time you probably will form a friendship again but please just be careful..Try to not let him hurt you anymore..easier said than done I know..{{{hugs}}}
Me: 36 H: 34 2 D's: 10+13 Married: 13 yrs(Together 15) Found out about A-Jan 08 Finally ended April 08..I hope?? Struggling to co-exist in peace
Thanks everyone. H keeps tm me saying that he wants to be friends and all that. But what I think he plans on doing is lying to OW and sneaking talks to me on the side. As if I am the OW??? Maybe at this point I am, but I am not comfortable with that at all.
I am going away this weekend to Chicago. I am really excited. I will be back on Monday and school starts back up on Thursday (teacher meetings) so my life will go back to having structure which is something I am really needing right now.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
hey Star)))))))) was away, but welcome ))))) you've come a long way hon. As far as that looser telling you to not talk to him then tm'ing again, jeez! honey, that man is royally messed up and has no idea how much this hurts you, the coming and going, 'be my friend' then 'dont contact me', for your own sanity diminish any contac you have with him.
If one day he grows a pair he will come around and perhaps you will be ready to be his friend if that's what you want, but right now the man is a mess and he's still dragging you on his crazy roller coaster.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
It's my sincere theory that maybe the GF has XH's huevos buried in her mom's backyard. Just sayin'.
Hope you had a fabulous weekend! I still say, do what you need to do to make yourself happy. He is a messed up little dude...sad, but not your responsibility or making.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
