Thats very sweet Jill I think the flowers alone will let her know how much you think of her, A few of my parents friends who have lost their spouse still refer to their wedding anny as just that. Their wedding anny, it always will be.
"thinking of you mom on this special day" ?
How is she doing btw, is she going out w/ her friends?
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
Jill, I'm with Karen on this one, I lost my dad at a young age and like so many things it's how you deal with it initally that is so very important. If you start out by tip toeing around the subject it could beome an uncomfortable and awkward subject. If you address the subject openly it will set the standard and make all special occasions in the future easier.
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"Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!"
As for how my Mom's doing....... Not to well, actually. Since my bro left about a week ago I don't think I've talked to her when she didn't start crying. Today, her angst is over the "possible" hurricane in FL. They have lots of rain and strong winds where she's at on the East coast. She's lost electricity several times. She's always been terrified of storms and hurricane season lasts for several months in FL, unfortunately.
I told her that she's always welcome here for however long she'd like to stay but she stated that she's afraid to fly....
Yup, so Mom, which are you more afraid of? Planes or hurricanes?
I don't know how we're going to handle the holidays if she refuses to fly anywhere. All of us can't leave our families to be with her in FL.
Jill: Just listen to her and send your support and love. You will be surprised at how quickly she will recover if she gets out with her friends. The hurricanes are scary - that's for sure but it does seem to be worse in the Keys. I hope it doesn't come back with more strength as they suggest might happen.
Keep lovin' her and give her more time to heal. The holidays are a long way off.
I'm surprised at how well my dad is coping with my Mom gone. I have more admiration for him than ever before. But it didn't happen over night either.
Ahh Jill I'm sorry and I know its frustrating for you. I figured it would hit her later, that usually happens.
Does she have people who will help her if the hurricane hits close to her? not sure if thats the right terminology for hurricanes but someone who will help her.
Maybe by the holidays she may of healed a bit more and be more willing to travel. I hope so.
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
I told her that she's always welcome here for however long she'd like to stay but she stated that she's afraid to fly....
Yup, so Mom, which are you more afraid of? Planes or hurricanes?
I don't know how we're going to handle the holidays if she refuses to fly anywhere. All of us can't leave our families to be with her in FL.
I'm sorry she's not doing so well yet but she hasn't had a lot of time to grieve yet. She needs time to heal and adjust to being alone. Hopefully she'll get back to doing things with her friends.
As for her having to choose between hurricanes and flying, well, you know how I'd vote. I must be her daughter!
Exit Only! I'm telling ya, Exit Only! 
