I am so sorry to hear of your struggles right now. You are in my prayers. I, too, have received much hope and insight into my situation from reading your posts. It seems as if your H is regretting his decision. I hope he is there for you when you really need him.
Know that we are here for you, too.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
I am so sorry that you are going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom, and the rest of your family. Is H going to honor your request to let the kids stay with you right now? I hope so. It does sound like he is empathizing with what you are going through.
{{{hugs}}}
TP
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
Trusting so sorry you are going through this. It's interesting the convo with your h. It sounds like he wants to open up to you, but doesn't want to burden you right now with what is going on with him.
I know that my h said something similar a while back. He said that I had enough to deal with and that he didn't want me to have to deal with his issues too.
Nice of you to lend a listening ear. Continue to do what is working for you. Hugs!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
I miss her already, but I am thankful she is at peace. She died in my dad's arms. He was rubbing her back because she was having difficulty breathing.
God give me strength.
Had to take my daughter to her tennis tournament this morning. I did not want to tell the kids yet. Ex was there taking pictures. I acted pretty much as if... because that is how I felt.
After the tournament my ex called me while I was driving home inquiring about my mom. I told him. He was shocked and told me he was "there for me". I made him repeat that because I was not sure I heard him correctly. I told him I appreciated that. We cried and we agreed to tell the kids together about the news tonight. He asked me where the funeral was going to be.
I met my father and my 2 brothers at my dad's house to go to the funeral home. We made all the arrangements. It was emotionally draining. As we left the funeral home, my ex pulled up in his car, got out and hugged my Dad and my brothers. It was so unexpected and I was speechless. I told him that he was welcome to participate in all the massess and services and dinners. He said he did not want to intrude. I told him he would not be.
My family all got to my Dad's house and we decided to ask him to be a pallbearer. I texted my ex and asked him per request of my family to be a pallbearer. He accepted.
My family all said that he looked so madly in love with me.
My mother loved him.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I am so very sorry for your loss. We are here for you if you need to talk.
Last edited by ANewMe; 08/20/0802:18 AM.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
