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Yes, it does feel awesome!! And I too have declared NEVER to get like I was before... Ever...except whenever I get prego then it will be ok but the way things are looking now that won't be for a while..lol.

P.S. Before & After pics...wow that sure does sound like a fantastic transformation!!!! Keep up the Good work!!

yes i try.. you know what i hung around my buddies tonight, i don't even miss my W anymore when I am out.

Going back to the Scorpio topic Red...if your brother missed being one by a day means he's on the cusp with his sun sign(Libra or Sag) and Scorpio so while he's not a true Scorpio he will have traits.

It's good that you don't miss W while you're our...it means you're detaching. However, detachment doesn't mean you don't care.

I just had my second tattoo too Going for number 3???

Jen,

W is dating or trying to.. i am not dumb, i know something is fishy. I can't be expected to sit by and just be alone.. i like alone time, but last night i thought and thought of how i could get her to move out and if i wanted to stay in this house.. it's an awfully big house and awfully far into the burbs... not too sure on that quite yet, a few more bills to pay and it should come easier to answer.

Yes detachment doesn't mean i don't care.. i never said i didn't care, i am not like that. You want to hear something funny.. if i were to bring anyone over, W considers them all "skanks".. now why would she call them that? I call jealousy on her part.?

Maybe she is trying to date (too soon in my opinion). I didn't tell you you should sit around and be alone. Time to think and be alone is fine but it shouldn't be a permanent state. You need to let her go and you've been doing a great job so far. She may be very jealous of any females you're friends with and while thats her choice it's not healthy for either of you.

What would be healthier for you? To move into your own place closer to the city or to maybe bye your W out of the house you're in now?

Yep too soon , but that is her choice, i thought i was ready, but the reality is i just want some more friends, i have 3 friends out of hmmm 50 left from the M.. but u know what those other ones weren;t really my friends i guess.. anyways now i just want to meet new friends, i am good at this so..

Alone won't be a permanent state for me.. nope .. I am (not being what's the word?).. popular with the ladies, so i don't think that will be a problem.

I thought about buying my W out, i thought of several scenarios last night. I think the scenario i have in mind might take a couple months, if the house isn't sold by end of October, I will be ready financially to take on the home myself. I would rather be near downtown, than stuck in the burbs. The burbs is family land.. i will be single now, so i'd rather be close to work.. which is downtown.

Jen, I have let her go.. i think the phrase too much water under the bridge applies here.. she still cannot believe i have changed.. lol.. it's funny to see.. but .. i have to keep doing what i am doing, i feel and look better than i have in over a decade.. i will never go back to where i was..

PS It is 32 outside, gotta go catch some rays..

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Both me and NG are quite aware we both need the alone time as we both move out of major R's.. so be it.. that is fine by me for sure. I don't think I can be any good to anyone else but myself yet anyways.. maybe in 2-3 more months.. it took me 3 months to be this strong, i can only imagine how much stronger i will be in 3 more...

Good luck Sawks...very glad you decided to cool down with NG. Hey we aren't psychics maybe W will sense the detachment and it just might bring her back around...I know wishful thinking..just trying to be optimistic..if you even have that door open at all anymore.

Hi sep.. it's always open, just now down to a very thin sliver of an opening.. i pretty much have lost interest in her.. she hasn't changed one bit, she still thinks she is allmighty and devoid of any fault. I don't think the same as I used to.. like I said before, everyday I detach more and more. I would have my own space if this house would just sell allready!!!!.. anyways just informed W that if by end of October house isn't sold, I might consider keeping it... MIGHT being key word..

What did she say to that?