Or if you find his stuff lying around (clothes here and there) put it in a box and leave it out in the garage.
My H has his stuff scattered in FOUR places!!!!
Here--he has all of his tools, auto fluids such as oil, coolant,etc.
His trunk: he has had bags of clothes in there for two years now
OW's: His work clothes and casual clothes
Work: Our personal stuff such as bills and his CD's and whatever else he keeps there.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Treese, how are you today. Just here catching up on other's post and wondered about you. I hope that you are okay...
TOH
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
Treese, I hope you are doing okay this week. People have been posting to you.
BTW, in answer to your earlier question...no, I'm not a therapist. I work in the human resources field.
I hope the week is going well for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Treese, I hope you are doing okay this week. People have been posting to you.
BTW, in answer to your earlier question...no, I'm not a therapist. I work in the human resources field.
I hope the week is going well for you.
I used to work in HR and I loved it.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I've still been very down this past week....the depression is really setting in....I was on a hunt for therapist today but no luck....H's insurance is tough....I can't seem to stop crying....I'm good for a little while then I just start sobbing...I have been praying alot....asking God for my answers and of course nothing....I know in his time but really everyone....I am going crazy....
I did lay into my H today...couldn't help it....I'm ticked...ticked that he didnt come see his daughter right away and do you want to know his response....he said, "well, I saw her for an hour on Sunday,(he hasn't seen her since May), and it was like prying answers out of her and then she went up to her room, you know how she is, she's always been like that"....I said, "What?,,,she talked to me for 3 days....it's like he was ok with it....like it was our fault or something....his voice makes me just want to slap him silly...doesnt he realize WHY she won't talk to him? For real now....then I told him he needed to help me with the kids and school...he said I am helping.....taking my son 10 days in the past 8 months is NOT helping....that's a babysitter....I didn't say that to him but I thought it....Then I said my life is F***** up....I'm tired of being lonely and waking up alone...I'm tired of him acting like I don't exist.I have feelings.., then I just said, I gotta go and hung up....sorry all but it just kind of came out....and I don't feel bad about it at all....sorry about that too....but I've been holding so much in...crying....trying to move on with my life and I CANT...I start to then bam...right back.....I really didn't say too much but I know it hurts my DBing....guess you gotta take the good with the bad....
this is as close as i've been to wanting to throw in the towel...I'm exhausted....I want to be loved....to hold someone, to be held...to be the center of someones world....I deserve to be...this MLC is crap....I hate it...I just want to run away....
HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.............well, at least I got to vent it.....
thanks everyone for caring....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
okay...so after reading some other threads, I realize I just made him feel more guilty....geez....I don't know if I'll ever get this....it just festers inside you then H calls at the wrong time and says the wrong thing and I was set off.....darn it....I didnt have a chance to count to 10....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Oh Treese, I am so sorry. Your so doing what I have done so so so many times...None of it will do any good for you. Nothing that you say, nothing that you do will make any difference it what he is doing or going to do. I KNOW!! I've been exactly where your at and done the exact same things over and over and over again. And everyone told me to stop. I couldn't. Everyone told me it would do no good. I continued. I UNDERSTAND your pain and frustration. Your anger. Your loneliness.
He does not hear you and if he does it won't change a thing except to make him more angry and run harder.
I don't have answers for you. My life is such a mess as well. I just know that I hurt for you because I've been there. And I'm sorry.
I guess for me, the last time I found out H was still communicating with OW and he once again yelled at me that he was never coming home, that I couldn't make him happy, that he didn't want to be with me, was one time too many. I can't take the rejection anymore. So I told myself to STOP putting myself in the place to be rejected. STOP asking, STOP talking, STOP begging, STOP crying to him, STOP STOP STOP!
For now it's working for me. I guess you can say this time I am really taking care of me. I pray that you'll find that place soon. You don't deserve the sadness...
((((TREESE)))) hang in there...LOV, TOH
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
