Time for some honesty. Three months ago, you came here. You were in such bad shape you posted every 5 minutes, and analyzed every single thing your W said.
Now, you want us to believe that in 3 months you've grieved, gotten over your W (even though you've STILL never lived apart from her), completely changed, and are ready for some hot new model over a decade younger than you? I don't buy it. She's saying "sure, I know you're still married and still live with your W, but let's date". What? Sounds like a real keeper.
And from reading the last 9 pages of this thread, I don't think you do either. I was actually refreshing your old thread, it wasn't locked yet. Had no idea all this was going on.
You're trying REALLY, REALLY hard to convince everyone, which makes it even harder to believe. You strike me as a very emotional guy that makes split-second decisions, just like our old friend Fish. Here's the thread (remember, he had just moved to Piecing and convinced himself that his D was busted):
Do you believe a word he says? Where do you think he is now? Do some hard thinking buddy. Glad you're still posting here. As for the FB stuff, of course your W is suspicious. And she's right. And that should bother you a bit...
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Lord I am reading Fish's posts...Wow. Sawks, you might want to take stock...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Lord I am reading Fish's posts...Wow. Sawks, you might want to take stock...
Yes, very similar.
Sawks, don't take the 2X4 too hard, just do some reading and see what you think. I know it feels good to have a new girl, but you're only strong if you can do without one for at least another six months. Just my .02
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Time for some honesty. Three months ago, you came here. You were in such bad shape you posted every 5 minutes, and analyzed every single thing your W said.
Now, you want us to believe that in 3 months you've grieved, gotten over your W (even though you've STILL never lived apart from her), completely changed, and are ready for some hot new model over a decade younger than you? I don't buy it. She's saying "sure, I know you're still married and still live with your W, but let's date". What? Sounds like a real keeper.
And from reading the last 9 pages of this thread, I don't think you do either. I was actually refreshing your old thread, it wasn't locked yet. Had no idea all this was going on.
You're trying REALLY, REALLY hard to convince everyone, which makes it even harder to believe. You strike me as a very emotional guy that makes split-second decisions, just like our old friend Fish. Here's the thread (remember, he had just moved to Piecing and convinced himself that his D was busted):
Do you believe a word he says? Where do you think he is now? Do some hard thinking buddy. Glad you're still posting here. As for the FB stuff, of course your W is suspicious. And she's right. And that should bother you a bit...
Hey Jon,
Yep 3 months ago, I was in rough shape, but i honestly think i am a very very different person than I was. 3 months of not having family around to hug me when the times were tough and rough, i believe it's made me very very strong.
Yes granted I haven't lived apart from W, but I look at her much differently than say even a month ago, day by day i grow stronger. The living apart thing may or may not have helped, we may as well be in different homes, because she spens her time here in 1 part of the house now, i spend mine in another. we chat, it's simple things.
As for the new girl. Not so much ready to move on with her, i may have thought i was, but "friends" is a good start, and she knows where i am, original plan was play some squash , hang out once in awhile, plan is back on track.
I have no plans to leave here, and u sort of have me pegged.. I am one for the " emotional decisions" I am trying to get away from that. I appreciate your honesty and will read this fish fellows posts (couldnt find them before when Jen mentioned them). What do you mean it should bother me that my W is suspicious?
I'll read the fish stuff tonight when i get home and will post my thoughts..
Thanks Jon for linking Fishs threads. I had mentioned Fish to Red before but didn't link it up for him.
As Ladybug said though Fish had a D7 but some things are similar for me too.
Sorry Red, please take your time and let the flow take you.
Yes I will take my time, and like Dan said i will not shut the door more than 98% right now.. that 2% left for the W.. who knows.. in the meantime, i just keep doing my daily routine, gym,work and so forth (GAL)... thanks ((Jen))
Lord I am reading Fish's posts...Wow. Sawks, you might want to take stock...
Yes, very similar.
Sawks, don't take the 2X4 too hard, just do some reading and see what you think. I know it feels good to have a new girl, but you're only strong if you can do without one for at least another six months. Just my .02
Hi Jon,
So you think I am only strong if I can go without a girl for 6 more months? I got lost there, please fill me in (I hope I don't sound bad there).. I am 37 years old, and I feel great about myself , why should i wait 9 months before I can "be" with a new girl.. please I am just a tad lost. I haven't read fish's posts yet, but I will..
OK I just read thru the first set of posts (all 11 pages), but it's getting late so 2nd set tomorrow. Seems to me, Fish started dating this woman who was his W's BF.. as a sort of revenge. I am not doing anything of the sort, in fact I am not really dating new girl yet, we just hang out together.. nothing really more, it may come in the future.. but that's the future.
W brings nothing to the table right now other than continuing to blame me for everything. Plus she is trying/is to date.. Am I to just sit by idly? I may have worded things wrong, i don;t necessarily want/need a relationship right now. But a date here and there won't kill me.
She even has the nerve to say "we are amicable because of me" in one sentence and then " I have a roommate but not by choice" in the next.. how much BS can she spill?
Anyways I said I am done, but decided to leave a 2% chance I could change my mind.. guess we'll see what the future holds. I continue to live day to day and will continue that till I die. Lessons learnt call it..
