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LOL!

I hear ya! I had asked her a while back "what have you done with my wife?". She rolled her eyes and in a way kind of looked possessed... I think she may be. I don't have any crop patterns in my yard, but I am hearing a funny noise late at night that kinda sounds like something may be hoovering over my rooftop......

SEE! That's it! Proof enough I'd say.

Been 2 weeks since I moved back home. It has been like a ghost town in the house... It's kinda scary. We have said about 2 sentences to each other the whole time. She comes home from work, watches T.V., I may sit down for about 10 min on the other couch and then away I go to my room. My wife never has been the one to open up a conversation, so I'm wondering if I should initiate some dialogue. Just about everything I have said or done has been misinterpreted as "fake" and an attempt to win her back. I don't want to appear that I am pursuing her at all, or have any other motives other than to be a friend who has "gotten a life". On the other hand, I don't want her to think that I no longer have interest in reconciling either. What are some good things to say that may not appear pursuing, but will get her to at least acknowledge my presence?

Thanks.

LOL, Now that you mention it I have some weird impressions on my lawn too. I had thought that I had been neglecting it whilst distracted with "other things" but the crop circles would explain a lot. To further support this after the W moved, my lawn miraculously started to regain it's health.

(That and I started to water it again.)

Idle fun, chit chat seems to work for me. I would just talk to her like a friend. Make a comment about something you see in the show you are watching together or something. I'm the joking type, so I just make comments, or something to be uplifting.

If it's going to be akward though, or come across as fake, then don't do it. You really need to feel like it's an ok idle chit chat in order for it to work. Don't do anything until you're ready.

Yo firedog, and everyone else!!

Hey Pal, my name is Joe and Im an FF as well in Canada.

Ah...welcome to the show??? Nah thats sick! How about you got an IAFF brother that is exactly in the same boat you are.

You can read up on my story in Newcomers forum under Im so lost with out her and in the Walk Away Wife syndrome forum under hanging on by a thread. If you want to that is.

My wife is threatening to sell our place so we can seperate but I am holding out to the bitter end on that. She believes she will better off on her own raising our 2 girls that way and will be happy. While we are living under the same roof, the last week has been hell for us, especially me because I snapped the other night and the resulting snowball that crashed down hill got huge and just kept going and getting bigger.

Had 2 C sessions today. First one with an IC that we are both going to seperatly and the other this afternoon is my first visit to a DBing coached MC.

So its been a tough day for me as well everyone else here probably. The DBing books are good! Im 3 quarters through the first one called DBing. I will be reading DB remedy next. Im trying to do some 180s and will be putting some stress relief exercises to work tonight when my W gets home from work. I am still debating weather to go out tonight or stay home. I need some quality family time together while I can still get it. I hope we dont have to sell, we live in a small paradise in our corner of the world.

Your sitch is the same way at our house to. We take turns in sleeping in our daughters rooms while the other is in our bed. I hate this because I miss her so much. I had a laugh where you guys were talking about aliens. I remember saying to my w in feb - Who ever you are, get out of my wifes body and bring her back!

About the conversation thing, just be happy and up beat. Joke and stay positive. I crashed the other night and Ill tell ya it will make things worse, avoid the r talk as much a possible. My w and I had a huge blow up the other morning because I couldnt stay positive, and let my emotions get the better of me. I ended up just begging and pleading - yup really attractive.

Ontheedge22, LeighS, NewMe, abgiles and myself are people all in the same boat as you bud. Plus a ton more that I just havent read about yet. Im brand new to this place as well and am still having a hard time navigating my way around on this site. Oh hey, check out coach and smartcookie, sadmilitarywife and bliss. Good wholesome people to chat with.

We are all in this together, just like at the firehall, but without the dark humor, ribbing, and fattening firehall meals!!

Post me back . Look forward to hearing from you.

So keep in touch, Ive added you as a watched topic

Hey Dogger,

How are ya holdin up partner? Long time no talk. I have lots to fill you in on.

Hopefully we will talk soon.....Joe

Hangin in there... but it's been tough

W is moving into an apartment this weekend. She got approved for the apartment and I guess feels like she just has to follow through with her "feelings" and all. Things have been going well between us.. check out my other threads "she's moving out" and condensed version of my story. She is so secretive and such that I will never know if she has filed for D unless I ask her... I don't plan on doing that. At this point, I am just going to look for a roommate and try to keep the mortgage from going into foreclosure because she just walked away and left me with a mountain of bills to pay by myself. I read your thread just now and it sounds like you are really making some progress and I am so excited about that. I really hope you two will pull this together and I will pray that God will give you wisdom in how to continue your behavior towards her. Hang in there Joe!

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