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Short stitch:
She paid for a PA uncontested divorce.
questionnaire papers are in her purse.
She initiates first contact, IE phone calls , hugs, kisses
Me...
One confuzzled dude!

Journaling.....
She is still acting happy.
Yesterday was a little rough for her at work as she fights with her mom and sister.
She made the comment that she is the A**hole bastard child now.
I said she wont be after her sister goes to college. She said she will always be the AHBC.
She went out after work (or so she says) with 2 FF.
She also told me that she might be going out tonight with her cousins. We'll see.
Id love to go out and GAL but I have the kids to think about.
Plus all my money goes to the bills.
I'm not sure if I should just go dark or keep on doing what I'm doing. If we hug or goof around its her that starts it. I don't initiate phone calls...she does.
and the adventure continues.....

Question: Is the right forum for me?

Well I know someone reading this beside me heh....
She went out with her cousins last night.Turns out she ran into some old friends of mine at one bar.
I wonder if she told them...
She hadn't called or texted all night so I sent her a Hope your OK text. She usually calls when she goes out so I wont worry.
Kinda odd she wont call when she is with family.
Maybe she wants to show them that she "is done with me or something"
Anyways she said she was little tipsy and I texted back "are you ok to drive" she said yes. Yikes!
I took over the bed last night since our S went to a friends house last night and our D fell asleep on the couch.
I was up late gaming but I went into our room to watch a movie when she came home. She wasn't happy that I was in bed but I came out to talk to her. She seemed a little mad...maybe guarded.
She walked out with her pillow and laid down on the small couch.
I said good night and went to bed. First time in 3 weeks.

Next day she finally woke up and we made small talk and watched TV with the kids.
I acted as if...as if things weren't bothering me talking to her not really as a friend but more like and acquaintance really.
Later she went to her MF house to help plan their trip to the race next week. She was dressed in basically what she slept in,
Sweatshirt and Jammie pants.
Later she came back home and got ready for work. I called her later on for phone night nights for the kids and she sounded down. Wonder why.
stay tuned....

Well I reclaimed the marital bed....
Last night I put the alarm clock back in our room and left her pillow on the couch. She came home from work and I was already in bed watching TV. I came out to talk and she wasn't saying much at all. Same with today when I called. Not necessarily mad but down. Altho those two moods sound the same for her sometimes.
I keep my mood light, neutral and to the point and we hung up.
not more than 2 minutes later she called back to say our dog has learned to open the screen door by himself. I laughed and joked about it but her tone never changed.
That was odd.

Gman,

I think you will get more responses in the newcomers forum. There tends to be more traffic there. Most of the posters here, I believe, are/or have been the WAS. As a former WAS I can say I (we) are more than happy to provide some insight where we can.

It sounds as if your wife is still open to you. I don't think this is the right time to go dark. Continue to GAL and 180. Do you have a to do list for your 180?

Best of luck. You are in my prayers!

Thank you Hope.
Ive been to MLC and posted there since 06. I wasn't getting much there.
Yes she's still somewhat open to me but as of late it seems she's a total 180 from a week ago which was happy.
Do I have my list...yes you can say that and Ive been doing it. She has reacted somewhat to my good moods but has been different yesterday and today.

It sounds like there's a lot of tension in your home and you seem to be waiting for the next drama. How long has it been that way?

Hello Run,
Its become worse since the day of the third bomb run, which was 3 weeks ago.
W has mailed her D questionnaire and is still planning her trip to see the races this week to Michigan. Meanwhile I'm trying to figure out how to get the bills paid and keep kids fed.
I made out a list of bills to give to her to see if she can help me out with them but I'm not counting on her help.
After work W told me she was going to MF house to visit him and asked if I needed smokes. I said yes and told her we also needed milk for the kids. Knowing that she has a habit of falling asleep there I told her to be home before I had to go to work in the morning.
She was on the couch this morning when I woke up.
Is there tension? Yup!

Does your wife still work in a bar?