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It's hard to say, without knowing more about his behavior, PRE-AFFAIR. People in active affairs often do crazy, crazy stuff (the example I often give of the otherwise intelligent, sane, female astronaut driving across the country WEARING AN ADULT DIAPER to go avenge "her man"), but they were well-balanced both before -- and after -- their affairs.

Puppy

Maybe it's just that then. He was pretty much normal until about 2 years ago it was, but I'm suspecting that he was having an EA back then though (if not a PA) with that co-worker. They were constantly texting each other and he would call her even in front of me--I was such a trusting idiot back then I didn't even suspect anything! That's when he started name-calling me and yelling every day, & my depression got really bad then too (don't think that helped)! Karen

If he was otherwise "normal" for 16 years, I doubt he has anything other than a severe case of affairus majorus, more commonly known as "I Never Did Love You Anyway, You Know, Syndrome."

Exciting day for me today! They delivered the new refrigerator and stove--I guess H bought them a couple days ago and maybe that's why he's been extra grumpy? The old appliances were broken and at least 50 years old so I am hoping my cooking may even improve b/c the old one was kind of glitchy and I don't think the temperature was right on it. It was kind of crotchety and temperament b/c of its old age! I sent H an email thanking him for them and asking if we have a dolly so S14 and I can move the old appliances outside (they wouldn't take them didn't know they did that)! D8 saw my note and said I don't have a dolly, but I have a lot of stuffed animals though (isn't that cute?)

Then as soon as they left I got a call from one of the 1st jobs I applied to (they always seem to take months to hire): the test proctor job (doctors, nurses, dentists, state contractors, and emts she said) and they conducted a phone interview with me and will do final interviews next week. I have to fill out an application today so will do that and then guess find out if I am a finalist, I hope. I was so nervous the first couple minutes b/c I haven't had a job interview in about 12 years! I probably kissed butt too much b/c I said at the end I hope they consider me for the job and she asked if I had any concerns I might not be able to do some of the job duties (would anyone be dumb enough to admit to that) and I said no, I thought I'd be wonderful in the job!!! I'm glad it's over at least! I figure even if I didn't get the job at least it was good to get the interview practice after so many years!!! Karen

Boy, from my own experience I can say that an A can make someone act like a completely different person. Whether you call it a mental illness or not, I don't think it really matters. You just need to completely disregard what they say and do, pogo sticks and all.

Thanks for stopping by, btw!

Karen,

Great news on the job front!!!

If your husband doesn't know where to get one to use, I think your local U-Haul dealer rents two-wheelers (dollies), cheap.

Puppy

Your daughter is too cute! Sometimes they will haul them away for a fee when you get a new one. He must not have wanted to pay for that.

Good luck with the job!

kat

Great news and good luck on the job offer, Karen.

Hugs and blessings.

Karen, that WAS good news. I think you showed a lot of confidence at the end. And thats a good thing.

(((Karen))) I think you did fine on the interview and like H4H said, you showed confidence...so that was even better.

Glad you got your new appliances.

Good luck on the job interview.