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Happy Friday Karen!

Glad S is more chipper, and I bet we never stop worrying! Tho there is a lot that is out of our control now that they are older.

Good luck on the garage sale! I hope you clean up like Queenie did! LOL!

Take care,
SG

Hey K,

You need to find out what game they're going to see so I know if it's the same one that I'm at. You don't really think he'd include the OW do you? What's going on with RY and his GF? Trouble in Paradise?

I really need to have a garage sale but I don't have it in me to waste a week getting ready only to be asked if I would be willing to take 50 cents for something worth $5. Hey I've got a life ya know!

Will for sure Ms. B, so far all I know is they ( are suppose) to be leaving Sept.28th

I have been contemplating for a few days now and something Naej said stuck w/ me. I have been stressing and agonizing over S and ex R. Mostly because I worry when I see S not happy. I try to "fix" things like I did when he was young and depended on me to do so, same w/ ex, he looked to me to fix whatever was wrong w/ things between him and S, even after he left-- well I aint doing it anymore!

I wanna enjoy my new life, my fiance, my freedom from work for the time being lol and I am sick of pacing the floors worrying.
Told S, because once again his dad was a no show/no call for lunch today ( so much for " i wanna be a better father" crapola)
and I assume S staying in bed till all hours and his sleeping is to do w/ it and partly his "will never work" long distance R ( which has his sleep pattern all off). Told him if he was going to get upset everytime his dad let him down, well, hes in for some sad times cause sadly his father will let him down more then he wont. Harsh I know but S is an adult, I wouldnt say this to a child. He needs to not depend on him or totally rely on him for social activities,which he has this summer, with his friends from here are slowly moving away and his college buddies are spread out all over AND once again a LD R that just cant work :oP


Did assure him tho that I am sure his dad will be there if he really needed him. This I believe

So i am draggin him out of bed- BOY i've said this for years and I am still saying it, I'LL BE GLAD WHEN SCHOOL STARTS!!

What I would like to know is what was the some thing you did that was a little different with your girlfriends??

Hhahaha ohhh Trip, I should keep you guessing
Like that song says, I kissed a girl, i liked it LOL S fav song!

Actuallyyy one of the younger girls I worked with just graduated w her Bach in Interior Design and is working an internship at this really nice Interior Design place here in town, same place my friend C has tried to get a job at, They had some powwow , I guess a few people in the biz, and some memebers from The Assoc. of Women In buss. The topic was How to be green friendly in the Design Industry , ok that part was zzzzzzzzzzz lol

BUT parts were interesting actually AND they had great Japanese food catered in, tried my first sushi and cali rolls AND get ready FREE WINE A PLENTY!! lol
AND i won a nice doorprize- one of those glass fragance reed diffusers
sooooo more then you needed to know uh? lol
then we went across to a really nice place we have never been for dinner. It was a very pleasant evening, even dressed up and uncomfortable lol

Yea what did you do that was different?

Oh

this is the new thread!

Um cheers to a great summer

Hey Lissie!
Nice to see you! Thanks for stopping by, Hope there is an update!

Beth, Naej!
Think ya found my old thread!

Love what you said Naej about " nice to see you, nice to see you go" LOL yea thats about it. I actually love having Ry home, I just feel he is more content at school, where his frieinds are and he has a goal, not just clearing out the garage! lol

He'll be going back in a month and I will miss him lots but he'll be happier I think.

Oh btw, B, its a Pats game they are going to In Boston, not a Sox, and K cant seem to get tix for that weekend, but R said they always have standing room only. Still cant figure out how that was an excuse why he didnt so much as call his S to cancel his lunch plans Sun.
nutter

Sure. Ignore my question. Brig wanted to know too! What gives?

Hey Karen,

You can tell Ry you love him, and that based on your knowledge and experience "blah, blah, blah...I love you, blah, blah, blah, if you want my advice, I am here for you, just ask. Again, I love you."

Now, he may or may not hear anything other than "blah" or he may actually hear your pearls of wisdom but you pretty much need to just give it to him once, leave the door open and then let it alone.

As for you, when you start to fret or worry or want to "fix it" you have to remind your self hs is now in Graduate School, the Graduate School of Life. The lessons we learn in this school are the hard ones, the ones that hurt yet remain with us. When the "fix it" mood arises, just realize you are making it worse by not letting him learn and grow through it. If he needs you, he'll ask. I promise, he will.