Good job on the jump. I waffled whether to come here but decided to do one last thread in Separated. I feel so unconnected a section change wouldn't make a difference.
I read your thread title, not knowing it was yours but thinking.. That woman thinks just like me! And voila.. it was my good buddy Imp! I hope you don't mind me hanging on to your coattails.
I cannot believe the man I thought was the most honorable, kind, generous, caring, sweet, loving person I could ever meet is going to be my ex-husband. It's very surreal.
I know exactly what you mean. I learned this week that my divorce was final July 17th and yesterday signed and mailed my QDRO for 401-K distribution (marriage is the only contract I know of where the person who breaks the contract for unjust reasons can be paid by the other person in the contract).
Surreal describes it perfectly. This is a person who I kissed goodbye in the morning and then would communicate with 3-6x during the day via email/phone, and would return home to another kiss. Don't get me wrong, not every day was a bowl full of cherries, but, like most here, it was more good than bad and did not have to come to this - crazy MLC, and yes, very surreal.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM
Welcome GFI!!! I'll probably make the move too when the divorce gets final or closer to it I guess. There are still a couple of us "old-timers" in Infidelity still. There is such a party atmosphere here though--will have to get used to that! I guess that's a good sign though... Karen
They were jaw-dropping. Absolutely spectacular. See the repeat tonight on the canadian station if you can because NBC always messes it up with ridiculous editing and commentary.
sorry you're over here, but glad you're growing & blossoming like the beautiful flower you are. You're a total catch for some lucky man one day.
I'll have a kahlua & cream tonight.
xoxo
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
