It's their money, they earned it, they can spend it.
My Husband did the exact same thing.
One winter I had no money for oil to heat the house, and I called him to ask for some help. He told me to have the kids use more blankets at night and to stop taking so many hot showers.
An hour later he called me to let me know he was eating sushi in a fancy place in the Valley and how nice it was.
Just like a beligerant teenager!!!
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
My Hs spending has been on holidays (9 since he left at the last count). The OWs engagement ring must have cost him a pretty penny as well. It's platinum (unlike mine) has rocks for diamones (unlike mine) of which there are three (just like mine). Apparently the symbolism for three stones is past, present and future or as I have also heard it phrased 'the love you had, the love you have and the love you will have'. He's also paying for her university education (after denying me the ability to study and telling D18 that she can borrow money cheaper as a student so not to ask him for any).
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
My ex mainly spends his money on trips now. Last year he had 10. This year it is 6 or 7. I have lost count.
I was so scared when this was all going on. My lawyer felt that I had no alternative but to file before he accumulated massive debt. I honestly don't know how he keeps his head above water. He makes big money though.
Ex playing some games now with when he returns the kids on his days. He is dragging the times out longer and longer. I have to be very careful not to get pulled into his drama. He is trying again to push my buttons. I reminded him nicely to drop them off on time.
He dropped off my daughter late today in his Jaquar convertible. He had to announce to me that he had plans this evening.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I bought that book The Script, and I cannot find it, but whenever I read that book and see the threads on here it is true they all do follow a damn script, it is as if like mothers we know what to do when having a child because it comes naturally to a mother, these guys follow the same script and go through this darn thing the same as if it is in them naturally because they are male and female I know. my ex did exactly the same, so many holidays, him and ow/wifey were going out of the country every other month in the first year, dont know what they do now, he bought her a white gold engagement ring and apparently that was a massive rock, massive wedding, well you know the rest. son and I got nothing and still don't. the money that man as gone through would have lasted us a lifetime if looked after properly, but no he as blown it all having fun with his bimbo, and now apparently as realised hes lost his son, should have thought about that when he wasnt wasting his money on his only flesh and blood.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I used to think my xh was the only truly self centered man on the planet. actually i htought if you looked up the word in the dictionary his face and name would be there!!
mine spends...but he does stupid spending. he made good money- spent it all - got fired - got fired - got fired... (yes that is the last year peeps!! CLASSY MAN I KNOW!)
now he has nothing and still pretends.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Yes, superficial would be a good word to describe my ex. When my ex was in high school they called him "Mr. Plastic" because he was so fake. When we were married he was so sincere and wonderful. He is now back in high school.
Things are fairly quiet in my situation. Ex is taking the kids and OW on another trip. They are going to Disney land. Leaving next week Friday. There is one complication though. My mother had her last rites tonight, she is dying. I told ex that the kids would have to be here for the funeral if she passed away. All he cared about was how much money he would lose if that happened during the trip or right before. All I know is that God has perfect timing and he will do what is best.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I am so sorry to hear about your mother!!!! My prayers are with you & your family.
I know you won't worry about what your H thinks about loosing that money, that is his problem. You just think about you & your family. My heart goes out to you!!!
