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Have you ever read "How to save your Marriage Alone" by Ed Wheat? I think it would be very meaningful to you right now. It's a very short little book but very moving. You can find it on Amazon.com.

Yoyo, Someone else recommended that book to me too. Thanks for reminding me about it. I meant to order it.

I don't think you would regret it. I also like the books written by Jim and Sally Conway.

NLT things may be very bleak right not, but this too shall pass. You know what you need to do for you now.

Get up, dust yourself off and move on with your life. Walk with your head high, and this may hurt to hear, but be blessed that your h was in your life at a time when you needed him and nobody can ever take that time away or the memories that you shared not even ow.

I am crying for you now NLT and I can't even begin to know how you are feeling. ((((HUGS)))))

Even if he is in another state?

I was so happy with him & he was with me until she came along. I know he was unhappy within himself & blamed me. He said I disengaged from our M, I didn't, I really didn't. He said so many hurtful things to me.

I remember some emails that I read that H & OW wrote to each other & it said something about having their whole lives ahead of them & something about their families together. I don't remember all of it but they must have been talking about this last Sept. & Oct. he just met her in June 07. She flew here one weekend, 1 week after he told me he wanted D, then he would fly out there once a month until he quit his excellent job & moved in March. He even told her in one of his earlier emails that she was way out of his league, not sure what he meant by that. He also told her that she could pretty much have any man she wanted but she chose him. That was when he thought she had money. I knew better, she was working 2 jobs! Hello! Why would she do that if she didn't need money. Of course her other job at the time was real estate, so she wasn't selling.

I guess you can tell I became a pretty good PI but he stayed in the same house with me for 5 months after he told me & he lied & said he was tired of me accusing him of having another woman. I kept it quite for over a month.

I can't just turn off love! How can he???

Yoyo,

I haven't read that other book, how to save your marriage.... but I am reading Men In Midlife Crisis now. My H fits it perfectly all the way back to 2005, that's when he took up skydiving & scuba diving, lost weight & started running. Plus the part where it talks about how the parents were to their kids. His parents were just like that! And him being very picky & angry at or about work. I haven't gotten any books by Sally Conway yet.

Well NLT he is a little blinded right now. You may not know why you are going through this pain right now, but time will tell.

I was m before and I couldn't understand why I was going through all the suffering, but then I met my current h. Then I knew what God had planned for my life.

What I am saying is God only knows what the future holds and you never know if you just might meet someone else and fall madly in love again. Anything is possible.

I know you can't think like that now, but time has a way of healing and restoring your soul.

Glamgirl,

I know you are right, but this has knocked me down very hard & I'm not sure how long it is going to take me to get back up. The D was bad enough but this has hit me really hard!!

Thank you for your support! If we were close we could just have a good cry together, because that is all that I've done since I got back from my interview.

I had hoped things were going to turn around!

No I really can't think like that now. I always said & my H agreed that we were meant to be together. Right before he asked me out, I had seen him a few times but never really met him, I was unhappy with my job & I didn't have any friends here & I was about to move back to my home state. I prayed & asked God to show me the way, if it were meant for me to stay here then he would show me. The very next week my H asked me out & the week after that a man offered me a job.

So, you see why I always thought H would be back. I know things change but still we were so perfect together.

Rest NLT you don't need to think about anything right now. This is a tragedy and now you will just need to cope day by day.

I wish you were right by and I would bring over a bottle of wine. We could have a good cry.

I had hoped too.