That last one locked up so fast! H4H, I promise not to get too skinny (love that one!). I really am still the same weight but I usually have absolutely no muscles, and think I am starting to get some. I'm one of those tall people, so don't think I have to ever worry about looking like Arnold or anything (think he took steroids anyway).
My last post was a complaint/vent about my H coming in twice last night into my room with the door shut. I guess he wanted to show me the new bathroom tiles he bought and then he wanted to tell me he found some of my contacts. I'm wondering if he's feeling guilty for his behavior this past week, taking the kids with the OW and then acting jerky this weekend. I hope he gets over it if he's gonna bug me like that! Oh, I said thanks for the last one when he came in and a Good on the bathroom tile, so I was kind of brief with him. Oh, well! Gotta go paint with D8 (she is an art addict--well there are worse things I guess)... Karen
Dumb question, but should I ask him not to do that or tell him that's not appropriate or what? It's hard to believe I'm 43 years old huh?
Also, still job hunting and I just found my perfect dream job: Text Chat Operator-Work From Home it says for people who love to chat!!! I was all happy and then I realized I bet that's phone sex operator really--but they can't say that they just figure everyone will know??? I don't think that's the right job for me then, but I know a couple people here that might be pretty good at it I bet!!! Karen
Interesting how your husbands moods seem to change like the weather. I would say that you're probably right, he's guilty. He knows that bringing someone else into the equasion is not only wrong but confusing to your kids.
Hold your head up and for goodness sake lock your door. He doesn't deserve the priviledge of having access to you. If he chooses to keep going down this road things will change. Better to show him some consequences now and to give him some food for thought!
Ok, practice this....OOOOOOOOOOOOOOH Baby! Do it to me BABY!
You could just lock it, but then he's probably just going to ask you "Why'd you lock the door??" In which case, simply say "Because you kept walking in without knocking, which was rude."
Or you could stop him immediately the next time he does that, and say "I would appreciate it if you'd knock and wait for me to say 'come in' the next time. Thank you." -- a STATEMENT, not a question.
If he says "But I ALWAYS do that," then say "Yeah, you 'always' lived here, and 'always' were faithful, too, but let's not go there and ruin a perfectly good day, shall we??"
Or you could stop him immediately the next time he does that, and say "I would appreciate it if you'd knock and wait for me to say 'come in' the next time. Thank you." -- a STATEMENT, not a question.
If he says "But I ALWAYS do that," then say "Yeah, you 'always' lived here, and 'always' were faithful, too, but let's not go there and ruin a perfectly good day, shall we??"
Thanks, Puppy. Will do the first part, but you know I probably don't have enough nerve or whatever to say the "always" thing. H left his wallet in my car last night (his is too trashed for the kids to ride in) and I had D8 call him and tell him the wallet was there. He comes here at 6:30 unannounced just walks in, picks it up and rushes out. He did toss me a thank you for telling me about the wallet on his way out the door.
He never gets here before 7 b/c of his job supposedly, but I'm sure he has a date with OW at 7 so needed his wallet to pay for the witch. (I was cooking dinner, doing laundry, and cleaning as he came in after just taking the kids to swimming lessons.) I just feel so tired of having a slutty sleazebag like him for a husband. It's horrible! But then I guess you guys know what that's like! I really feel ready for the D tonight (you might have to remind me of that in a month or 2 though when it actually goes through!) Karen
I hear ya' Karen.. I hate it when they are all happy, happy while off doing whatever it is that immoral people do.. All the while, we are home taking care of EVERYTHING! Do you ever feel like they have the best of it all right now while we get the yucky stuff?? I know I do!
Karen: pay for the witch. (I was cooking dinner, doing laundry, and cleaning as he came in after just taking the kids to swimming lessons.) I just feel so tired of having a slutty sleazebag like him for a husband. It's horrible! But then I guess you guys know what that's like!
We feel the same way the witch, a slutty sleazebag like her for a W - I'm trying to distance myself from these immoral, low life, me, me, me people. I'm looking forward to meeting some of the good people in life, we have all hit rock bottom, I think I have just past it, life will get better, I know its hard to keep a positive attitude, but we can only control ourselves.
I know you are a good person, I know you hurt, I know it isn't fair that we have to go thought this but I'm looking to the future without these sick people.
God has to have something better waiting for you, I know you deserve better in life.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Karen