Moving back in will make her life "inconvenient". Why should she get everything she wants and you get shafted. Why should she get to carry on her happy family life with the OM standing in your spot?
Move back into your house... even if she doesn't like it. It's your house.. and until she makes arrangements to live somewhere else you will have more time with your son...
Of course she's being nice to you now that you did what she wanted! And yes, she will cheat with om regardless of where you are living... but that house is yours and you are paying for it so get your butt back in there and stop being her doormat!
Letting go is letting them do what they are going to do and you getting on with your life. Your focus is you and your son right now. If moving back home makes her more uncomfortable, tough. she mad her bed let her lie in it. She has no reality in her face right now, just everything nice and convenient. She won't have to change at all the way things are. Throw her off balance and take your life and your home back.
Do you see the difference?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I am a flipping wreck. I need someone, anyone. I haven't been this upset in 2 months; W just told me again to move on. I am meant to have a different place in her life other than her husband. I feel like I'm suppsed to let her go and grant the divorce. I have been so strong until now. But she just keeps beating it into my head to give up ! I can't take this
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
I didn't pay enough attention to her and I just let everything slide by me and didn't show her I loved her enough. I've been blaming her for being a quitter and blaming the OM for butting in. But it got this way because of me. If I go dark and detach from her or go cold I will lose a possible friendship with her. The friendship would be for my sons sake of course. He is in good hands with both of our families. But she is going to be with who she wants to be with. I have to let go
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
lord if for some reason you are on this board watching this thread, show me the way. I understand marriages can be saved. My wife can see the changes I have made but they are too late. She cannot trust her heart with me. I am destroyed. Please pray for me everyone
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
It got this way because you both let it get this way not because of you alone. You ask for help but don't want to listen. You won't be able to change anything until you do.
Take a breath. Move home and take your life back. See a dr for anti-depressants if need be, go to a counselor. Make a stand
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
