My C recommended it----said that way you know he's read it. He is extremely avoidant, so it was always possible he wouldn't open it if I wasn't there. Don't know what will happen from here, but it was something I had to do.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
I like the letter approach, and I think I will do one in a few weeks myself. I don't want to do it now, because I am taking some time for me, time to reflect, and breath. But in a few weeks, I will be in a better frame of mind to say what I need to say without screwing it up with my mouth!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
my folks said the same thing as well as a close friend of mine.. but the person it was directed at hasn't said a peep.. but i had no expectations .. i wonder if i should just drop the price of the house and just say enough is enough allready.. it will soon be 3 months seperated..
Lol. Not to sound patronizing...but 3 months is NOTHING in DB-land.
You need to do the best thing for your DBing.
If you need space, maybe you should get the house sold. If you think she needs more space/time to make up her mind, then get the house sold. If you think the changes you have made that she sees nearly every day might be the best DB path, then stick it out.
Whatever you do, make sure you have a goal in mind and an idea of how you are going to get there. Don't make an emotional decision. I know you already know that.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Lol. Not to sound patronizing...but 3 months is NOTHING in DB-land.
You need to do the best thing for your DBing.
If you need space, maybe you should get the house sold. If you think she needs more space/time to make up her mind, then get the house sold. If you think the changes you have made that she sees nearly every day might be the best DB path, then stick it out.
Whatever you do, make sure you have a goal in mind and an idea of how you are going to get there. Don't make an emotional decision. I know you already know that.
I do.. and if the house ever gets a serious offer, I will deal with it then, right now the market is horrible.. it went from best for sellers in the country to one of the worst.. day by day see how it plays out.
I think I am ok the way things are right now.. getting bills paid and so forth.. i'll be prepared when things get decided..
i can't believe it took this to get me to where I am.. in great shape and so on..
