Please. Change the locks. Don't give him a key. It's about recommitting, and really meaning it.
My suggestion: change the locks again. If he is not living there, he doesn't need to be snooping around. He can't have a key until he agrees to MC and to drop the OW permanently.
And get a new lawyer.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
SW, I think Lola makes a good point. I think that your H has no right to be snooping through your stuff and he should learn to respect you and your boundaries before you give him keys again. My XH still has keys to our apartment but our sitchs are different. If he was doing the things that your H is doing I'd find a way to get him out. You're living in fear and that is no way to live.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I am not really afraid, it is more of a general annoyance and an invasion. It upsets me that he does these things especially if he is still taking up with someone else - which again if he is not is not by his choice.
I would be afraid to date someone at this point - not that I want to, but that seemed to be the time he really lost it when he thought I was out with a man.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
He wants to be able to have you AND OW but you can't have anyone in your life? So what does he expect? You can't have a life but he can do whatever he wants?
SW, please stand up for yourself with him. You should read Sunnys thread I think.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Found ya, SW! I was beginning to wonder where you went again.
Originally Posted By: JenInVen
He wants to be able to have you AND OW but you can't have anyone in your life? So what does he expect? You can't have a life but he can do whatever he wants?
SW, please stand up for yourself with him.
Ditto. Ditto. Ditto.
You'll get lots of terrific help here to get you through this, sweet lady. Again, I'm glad you're back!
(((((((SW)))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Sunny's thread Just be careful what you say on her thread...her H has been a controlling A$$ and has been snooping a lot.
I know someone like that. I have decided to take my computer with me when I leave the house now. Although I forgot it in the case at the front door today. What was originally snooping and yelling about this site, or other things I visited turned more into a game of embarassing me on FB.
I think he is afraid to be nice and talk normal, but needs the connection so goes around finding things to yell about or make me upset with.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
