Glad all is well with you and your girls, Julie. Definitely take care of yourself when you find yourself feeling low or in a funk. Also, I agree it definitely is much better when you can recognize it and deal with it in an easier or faster fashion.
So, x came by yesterday to help me with the squeaky swamp cooler (which I had to listen to AGAIN all night as it wasn't fixed). And BIL (H of sister living w/ me) was in the backyard drinking a beer so he invited X to stay and join him. I wasn't very happy about that. Anyway.
So then on X's way out the door, he says he needs to talk to me about sleeping arrangements until school starts (in 2 weeks)... I was racking my brain trying to figure out what he could be lecturing me about. To make a long story short, X and OW are remodeling his house and have taken the roof off to build a second story. So as this is happening, there is no power at the house so he and the girls are staying at OW's rental. But it's too crowded. So he wants to have the girls on his nights until bedtime and then bring them over to my house to sleep. I said I'd do it wed nights as that is split night, but thurs/fri are MY nights to work late and hang w/ friends. Initially he said it would be til school started but then backpedaled to say it might have to be a few weeks into school as well...
After much thought I've decided that I DO want my girls to be able to sleep in beds, not on the floor. But I'm not changing my time... so X can come put the girls to bed at my house and sit in the living room waiting for me to get home whenever I get home as I'm not making any promises or giving myself a curfew... think that's rude???
After much thought I've decided that I DO want my girls to be able to sleep in beds, not on the floor. But I'm not changing my time... so X can come put the girls to bed at my house and sit in the living room waiting for me to get home whenever I get home as I'm not making any promises or giving myself a curfew... think that's rude???
GIRLPOWER!!!! No that's not rude. He knew that this was coming. Why does he think that it should always be you who has to make all of the concessions? If he wants to be Dad and see his girls, he'll work around it but you shouldn't have to. You already make his life wayyyyyyyyy too easy because you are a nice person and the best Mom!
Sounds awful giving to him, if you ask me. I get taking care of the girls, fer sher. If it was my ex, I'd probably want her to drop a babysitter off at my place with my daughter, pay the sitter, then leave.
After much thought I've decided that I DO want my girls to be able to sleep in beds, not on the floor. But I'm not changing my time... so X can come put the girls to bed at my house and sit in the living room waiting for me to get home whenever I get home as I'm not making any promises or giving myself a curfew... think that's rude???
EXCELLENT
Not rude at all, totally fair.
Thanks for teaching me sugar.
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So... I mentioned the above to X and he backpedaled pretty fast and said they may be back in his house sooner than he thought so this would be unnecessary. I think he was mostly looking for more time alone w/ OW as he told my BIL that his remodel project is being really hard on them. Surprise.
Anyway, life continues to be good. I'm feeling pretty good. I won the biggest loser, even tho I gained back some at the end... I tend to self-soothe with food and with the messes my sisters have in their M's, I've been eating a LOT. At least I continue to run some of the calories off.
Thanks for the support and loves. Hope you all have a great weekend!!!
So you called his bluff. I bet he was po'd. So far things have worked out the way he had hoped but the road ahead probably won't be so good to him. You can't keep screwing around with other peoples lives and not get tripped up at some point.
At least I continue to run some of the calories off.