Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums We're separated--What Now? Wandering Poster - 31

excellent question!!!


~glinda

the Lab ????


is this laborador retriever?????

are you having tests done?



are you a biologist (please say no)

are you a chemist (please say yes)


~glinda the goodwich rocket

he's an computer geek right Jeff

(((((Lisa)))))(((((sg)))))(((((Jen)))))
Yes, a computer geek, though I can speak some hardware, too. My title actually calls me multi-disciplined. I think that might be the same things as Jack of all trade, Master of none.....

Lisa's question is a good one, isn't it. I'm the one who usually advises patience, and being still. But then again, that is usually much earlier in the sitch than this. So I'm not sure my usual advice is really useful here. I think at some point I have to actually have an R talk. But guess what, I've never been too good at R talks! I would really like to keep it from turning full blown, and I don't know that I can control that. In her mind she has a long, long, long, list of grievances. She can pull them out, and beat me with them. It's pretty much what happens whenever I approach this kind of issue. But the time she is done, she can make it sound like I'm lucky she's still here. My list is a lot shorter than her's. It's just that it is pretty big. I'd just like to be loved.

Jeff, I havent been around much, but why the name change? I like it, though.

The more I hear about your wife, the more I think she is related to my h.

I think part of the reason you dont want to talk to yur wife, is that you dont really want to hear the words she might say. I do the same thing.

At some point though, you have to know, I think. In your own time. Dont do it if you are not up for it, ya know?

(((((Donna)))))
The name change! sg did it this morning, near the top of this thread! And paid me a fairly huge compliment. I think I'll keep it for a while!

You are right, I think. It don't want to hear what I think she might say. But, I'm not sure if it is because I want to be married to her, or because I don't want to "fail"! Then there's the kids, of course. But, they are not seeing a great example of a working family as it is, so I'm not sure how valid that is. In my own time, you are right!

(((Jeff)))

You are making a lot of assumptions about what she might say. Now, you may be right...but generally when you assume you make an A$$ out of U & Me. So...when you do decide it's time...go into the conversation with an open mind and as few preconceived notions about the outcome as possible.

You are both pretty entrenched in your positions, and have been for years, so nothing will change overnight. But there are a lot of compromises and middle ground that could be available if you just keep your mind open.

(((((((VH))))))

I like your nickname. It did remind me a little bit of Brad Paisley's "Online" except I've seen pictures of you!

And I don't look anything like Brad?

And you don't lie about your height/weight...nor do you look like Jason Alexander!

Well, that I have to agree with!

I might cheat by a half inch on my height.....