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I would take it as a good sign about the niece. Were they always close?

I missed the idea from Smart Cookie. Is this something that you have admitted to her already?

not really. teh niece is turning 3. she's my goddaughter.

i said it to her way back in april. i didn't get it then.....i do now. it would be more sincere. I still don't know if i will. It's in the "women101" thread where i asked her

Are they having a party......where you are bringing the kids?

I thought I read where youinvited her to have lunch with the kids yesterday? IS this true, did she come?

yes they are, and it's just me taking them on saturday. I've half thought of asking her if she would come with because i really don't want to go. Long story.

i did invite her...no she didn't come....but she did come and hang out for a little while as the kids were finishing up eating.

Good Deal...how was that...what was the conversation, interaction between the two of you.....did there seem to be a tension. I appologize if I missed this in your thread. How long was she there for...was she just there to pick up the kids and just came early?

all good. talked about some random stuff..nothing too big, since i don't remember what we talked about. mostly about the kids and what i did with them. she mentioned something about me possibly bathing them when i picked them up,and i did. She seemed pleasantly surprised that i did. about 10 minutes, and she was here a little earlier..maybe 5 minutes...
this really is a long process....man....did it seem this slow to you too?

so my W is having a rough go of it lately. SHe's exhausted because she's got so much on her plate. Since sunday, she's had these painful bumps on her scalp and behind her ear. So much so that she's going to try and get a doctors appt today. I want to do something nice for her, but other than offering to take the kids, i'm not sure what to do.

Suggestions? remember, we are physically separated, and she really is against me touching her, so i think massages are out.

You did good, Neil. You let her see you being a good dad. That is a very attractive thing to a woman.

Yeah it seemed slow, though my sitch was a little different, I got most of my hard times out of the way before we sep....I knew it was coming for a while....just waitin gon the sale of our home. Right before the house sold I found DB. Even so, I found it slow even though it really wasn't.

When she is there what is her demeanor....does she seem comfortable, does she look at you when you talk or does she look down alot? Is she smiling? How does she respond when you ask her to do stuff? Does she smile and say well see or does she seem uncomfortable?

shes very comfortable..does very 'unladylike' things around me...LOL... the eye thing is weird. sometimes when we talk we look in each others eyes, other times we don't. she sometimes looks away...almost as if she's afraid of the feelings........she does smile....alot of her responses are we'll see. i really don't ask her all that often to do things together. I've been letting her initiate those a bit. She knows i'm open to the four of us doing something together, so i've sorta been letting her drive the car that way.