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Pisces...hope you are having a good day today..

what's good is that you recognized you were in a bad mood, and made a conscious decision to not allow your mood to affect other people. YOu did what worked for you.

You should be proud of yourself.

Now GAL today woman....make yourself feel better..!

thanks Neil- im trying!
well i also realized why i was in such a crappy mood..it all hit at once...my RA (rhematoid arthritis) is very under control and im very active but i do need to take my medication once per week-well ive been doing so well that ive been taking it only every few weeks...i forget that one of the first signs ill be needing it is that i get cranky, i get depressed/melancholy and i start to feel flu-like symptoms...DUH. so now im feeling pretty achy too and im alone and im sad. so clearly this makes for a wonderful combination of moods! yipee! so, yes- ill be taking my medication as soon as i can....

and yes, ill realize this and stay away from any "suck holes" with arguments...

also- when my H and i were together he had a hard time caring for me when i was feeling achy. i wasnt that moody with it but he just didnt like seeing me out of whack for a few days....thats something that has to change bc what i really need from him is support and love when i have a flare up. all i wnat is a hug or a cup of tea or to watch a movie. but i felt i needed to prove something by being active or pushing myself when i felt like SH*T. thats part of what i have...it only happens less then once per month....not so much to ask for...another lesson learned is to accept myself and my limitations. i am not wonder woman!

Hey, P. Sorry you're not feeling so good. One of my best friends has RA, too, so I know through her how difficult it can be.

You're not wonder woman, but you're pretty damn good.

another lesson learned is to accept myself

Which will only help you accept your H and his limitations, too.

thanks Lost ....
its true- he isnt perfect either...sometimes we are so hard on ourselves and project this on to others easily...
ACCEPTANCE! one thing my best friends H told me is that acceptance to a man from his wife is like food to him. he may not think thats what he needs but acceptance from his wife is like breathing oxygen to him and keeping him alive.
pretty powerful stuff.

Hi pisces...I like that. I also think thats one thing that many of us females don't think about much.

ok- so is there anything i can say or do differently to want my H to want come home? i know this is crazy...but i feel like he is stuck...or do i just have to let him wade through this and wait it out? i felt like we had such a great connection and now it is at a standstill.....ugh

patience my friend....don't pull, but be open to him

ok- i will thanks TD...
do you really think he wants to come home? i do think this- but i am scared to think this

Keep your hopes high and expectations low, Pisces. If you think good things then you'll really begin to believe them. Once you believe them then they can come true. It's the "Law of Attraction" Good things come to those who are positive.

i totally agree JEN! thanks for that reminder! i have had such great PMA for so long and so many good things have happenend..i need to snap out of this bc im scared i will attract bad things.

i actaully started a vision board last week- i think ill work more on that tongiht! it is so inspiring...it is just anything thsat you want in yourlife...dreams, goals, feelings, aspirations..i cut magazine pics out and glue thm onto a canvas..ive heard amazing things about them!

thanks for that reminder! PMA PMA PMA PMA PMA PMA PMA~ PMS! haha