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Good. that's what it was meant to do....

but seriously...good plan.

It means a lot to me that you think so, Neil. It is so good to feel optimistic about the future. No matter what I can see a good future. I'd of course prefer that it be with my h and our m, but it might just be me, my h and not being m. I guess with that as my alternative I will still have him in my life.

Last night went well. I moved my stuff into the s's bedroom just before my h came home on the motorcycle. Spent a bit of time outside after he'd gone in. I picked up after the dog and then gave her a good brushing.

Came inside and H was watching a movie we'd started to watch the night before but had been too tired to finish. I sat down to watch with him, but at the opposite end of our sectional sofa. Picked up my knitting and stayed pretty quiet most of the evening. After the movie I brushed my teeth and said goodnight from the other end of the hallway. Shut my door before he went to bed.

This morning I got up with the alarm and grabbed a shower after H had. Had coffee with him as usual, but sat across from him instead of right next to him as usual. Let him know I have C tonight, but other than that stayed pretty quiet.

He came to me and kissed me and gave me a hug before he left. I said to have a good day and he said, "you too." It was nice that I didn't initiate it. : )

I finished getting ready for work after he left.

I felt pretty good how I'd done on giving him space. It felt very good not to leave the house in tears or hurting. I know its only the first morning, but it really did feel good.

Neil, I will check on you shortly. I have an article to finish writing first. Just needed to journal about my night and this morning first.

Kjo-
Well done!!!!!!!

here's an idea i gave suzanne---

set yourself small goals...like.... I will not get overwhelmed by my emotions today.....and achieve them. It's amazing what a little bit of progress will do!!!

Told ya you could do this....

i'm very proud of how you handled last nite and this morning....betcha he was wondering what was up....

Neil,

I actually caught him glancing over at me like WTF a few times. Today I just want to work on my house when I am done with C. I cleaned up the kitchen before I left for work. There's something about a clean house that makes me feel so much better.

My floor is terribly dirty. It will get most of my attention tonight.

I'm thinking I'm going to need to paint my new bedroom. My son has had a teenager's room for a long time with posters, etc. I need to get them all down, patch the drywall and paint. I want to make it my space. (Should be interesting what kind of reaction I get as I do. My h always said we wouldn't change the room for as long as Cody was in college, it was his room. Well, right now he doesn't plan on ever living at home.)

I guess before I paint I will just get the curtains and take down the posters. Try to make it look a lot more feminine.

You know, Neil, I've known quite a few male cheerleaders. : )

LOL...i know. my W used to coach cheerleading at her school....and they had the football linemen on their basketball cheering squad so they could toss the girls into the stratosphere.

in reality, being a male cheerleader has its perks. Look where you get to grab attractive women? LOL

Neil,

I certainly hope your w notices and appreciates your sense of humor. I do!

I can do one day at a time. I can't look down the road right now, but I can do one day at a time.

How do people get to communicate off bb? I've seen a few mentions of people being able to communicate via email or that they've talked on the phone. I don't even seem to be able to send a private message. Maybe I'm not doing something right.

i think she does. i make it a point to make some sort of joke or crack whenever i see her...whether i fake her running over my foot orsomething along those lines...

good plan about your room. it's actually something i read somewhere else.....i did it for my girls' room here. painted it, made it girlie...with princess posters, etc. MY W noticed....she got the same posters for them for their room at her place..LOL

yeah, it's just one day at a time. You already have a long term goal...that's to reconcile with your H, but you gotta take baby steps before you get bigger ones.

you are taking baby steps...good job.

and your H is noticng...esp. with the WTF looks. My W was over yesterday and saw the KLA stuff sitting behind my computer and had the WTF look on her face. that's a good thing...trust me. They like the changes but don't know what to do with them. That's why we need to be consistent.

Grateful message today:

Today I am grateful to be truly grateful for all that I have.

Hi Wifey. Thanks for stopping over.

I like the idea of the room also, it will mean you've somewhere to go and be alone when you need to and to get and give some space. Wish I had a spare room !!!

Just caught some women looking at me at work....lol (sorry to put that here, but just this second happened...lmao)