Regarding the story of the horse, what I take from it is that you can't live on a diminishing diet. We can't support a M by paying less and less attention to it, nor we can we be supported if our S is giving us less and less attention. Eventually the M will die.
lodo
That's good, and how about we also need to give ourselves time and care, we can't keep going if we neglect/ignore ourselves also? That's something that I think a lot of us have done at least in the past...Karen
Kind of the same idea when you are flying. If the plane looses cabin pressure, put the mask on yourself first. You can't help anyone if you are laying there passed out!
Wish I were going to Scotland. Are you excited? Going to miss us?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I'm looking forward to it - I think it'll be fun. I don't know if excited is the right word. I guess when i think "excited" I think of someone jumping up and down and since this is partially work and I'll be alone for the rest of it. Well .... it'll be fun. But at this point I haven't really thought about it. Guess I should go exchange some currency or something.
Don't know if I'll have internet access or not. I'm guessing wifi won't be as ubiquitous there as it is in San Fran, but maybe I'll get lucky and can check in on you guys
In Germany, there was a little town called Schilda, whose inhabitants could perform all sorts of clever little tricks. Within this town was a horse who could perform amazing feats of strength, but against whom the citizens had one objection - the horse ate too much and oats were expensive.
The townsfolk determined to break the horse of this habit by reducing its ration by a little bit each day until they had coaxed it into complete abstinence.
For awhile, things went great. The amount of grain being given to the horse was gradually reduced and the horse didn't seem to notice.
The horse was weaned to the point of only eating one handful of grain per day. On the next day it was given no oats at all and sent out to the fields to work, where it died. The citizens were unable to determine what the spiteful animal had died from.
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Regarding the story of the horse, what I take from it is that you can't live on a diminishing diet. We can't support a M by paying less and less attention to it, nor we can we be supported if our S is giving us less and less attention. Eventually the M will die.
lodo, you're thinking way too hard. It merely means that if you want a work horse to work like a work horse you have to feed a work horse what a work horse requires to work like a work horse.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Why hello Kalni! I forgot to offer you some wine last night...
That's an okay philosophy, but I think I'm starting to buy into George Carlin's rules for life:
"1. Relax and take it easy. Don't get caught up in hollow conceits such as "doing something with your life." Such twaddle is outmoded and a sure formula for disappointment.
2. Whatever it is you pursue, try to do it just well enough to remain in the middle third of the field. Keep your thoughts and ideas to yourself and don't ask questions. Remember, the squeaky wheel is the first one to be replaced.
3. Size people up quickly, and develop rigid attitudes based on your first impression. If you try to delve deeper and get to "know" people, you're asking for trouble.
4. Don't fall for that superstitious nonsense about treating people the way you would like to be treated. It is a transparently narcissistic approach, and may be the sign of a weak mind.
5. Spend as much time as you can pleading and impressing others, even if it makes you unhappy. Pay special attention to shallow manipulators who can do you the most harm. Remember, in the overall scheme, you count for very little.
6. Surround yourself with inferiors and losers. Not only will you look good by comparison, but they will look up to you, and that will make you feel better.
7. Don't buy into the sentimental notion that everyone has shortcomings; it's the surest way of undermining yourself. Remember, the really best people have no defects. If you're not perfect, something is wrong.
8. If by some off chance you do detect a few faults, first, accept the fact that you are probably deeply flawed. Then make a list of your faults and dwell on them. Carry the list around and try to think of things to add. Blame yourself for everything.
9. Beware of intuition and gut instincts, they are completely unreliable. Instead, develop preconceived notions and don't waver unless someone tells you to. Then change your mind and adopt their point of view. But only if they seem to know what they're talking about.
10. Never give up on an idea simply because it is bad and doesn't work. Cling to it even when it is hopeless. Anyone can cut and run, but it takes a very special person to stay with something that is stupid and harmful.
11. Always remember, today doesn't count. Trying to make something out of today only robs you of precious time that could be spent daydreaming or resting up.
12. Try to dwell on the past. Think of all the mistakes you've made, and how much better it would be if you hadn't made them. Think of what you should have done, and blame yourself for not doing so. And don't go easy. Be really hard on yourself.
13. If by chance you make a fresh mistake, especially a costly one, try to repeat it a few times so you become familiar with it and can do it easily in the future. Write it down. Put it with your list of faults.
14. Beware also of the dangerous trap of looking ahead; it will only get you in trouble. Instead, try to drift along from day to day in a meandering fashion. Don't get sidetracked with some foolish "plan."
15. Finally, enjoy yourself all the time, and do whatever you want. Don't be seduced by that mindless chatter going around about "responsibility." That's exactly the sort of thing that can ruin your life."
Updating. W emailed me a few days ago saying she'd be very happy to watch my cats while I was away. I thanked her and said someone else was watching them, but she was welcome to go by for a visit if she wanted. Earlier I had asked her to pick up my veggie box on the day I get back as a return favor for me picking up her box.
So, she just emailed me and asked if I'd consider having dinner when I get back and before she leaves for 3 weeks. I thought that was an odd wording - "consider" - since I've been the one doing favors for her, letting her borrow my truck, asking her to a dinner party, being pleasant and cheerful. Maybe I took it the wrong way? Anyway, I said that I would.
I also just noticed the length of time she's gone - 3 weeks? Initially she was going to be gone for 5-6 weeks. I know I shouldn't read into it, but I wonder why. Maybe all is not well with OM? Although I kinda think he's not even an issue anymore, but I really don't know.
Of course, when she gets back is when we have our meeting with the D judge.
Ahh, confusion. She's probably just trying a little harder to be friends. No need to analyze every little thing, but that's hard to stop doing.
mmm... 'consider' what an interesting word choice. Seems as if she is taking into consideration your feelings & thoughts and trying to being respectful of them. of course it could just 'seem' that way. Time will tell.. It is what it is.
How's the paper coming along????
Peace Bridge...
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
Lodo