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Me three!

Not allowed to say that!

It will be different, either way. But, once you know what is going on, you can make the best of it.

The important thing is that you have gotten yourself protected, as much as you can, from the insanity. Now, just get as far out of the way as you can, so you don't get caught in the insanity vortex!

((((((Corey))))))

Hmm, interesting twist.

I hope it shakes things up a little and makes them think.

I'm not holding my breath though. LMAO.

(((Corey)))

Time will tell.

Well if that doesn't shake stuff up this certainly will. I asked H if he could take DS to football practice on Friday night and he hem-hawed around and it finally comes out that OW is taking him to a concert on Friday night in LA. Well I told him that if he went out of town with her that I would be done...I am.

I sent him the following text:
There is no need for you to concern yourself with getting DS to practice. I will make other arrangements. I hope that you and OW have a great time and are very happy together. You have made it all too clear that this relationship is not what you want, so it is not something I will force upon you again. I will have the good faith agreement drawn up as soon as possible & will see what it will take to ammend the papers & do so as soon as possible. I am no longer willing to be second to anyone in this marriage.

The reply I got was: I'm taking him on Friday.
My reply was: Whatever

I then changed my ringbacks to: What goes around,comes around and take a bow, and shut off my phone.

I'm just so over this crap. He is too screwed up and I'm out of patience. It just doesn't really matter.

Thanks for being here for me guys, you are awesome.
C

((((((Corey))))))

You've got it right, I think. You have to totally drop the rope. Don't depend on him for anything, and don't let him depend on you for anything. He's got to pull himself out of his mess before there is any hope of a M.

So sorry Corey!!! I think you've done great!!! You set your boundaries and I think that's great! You are in such a tough situation I kind of think that if you drop the rope as dry heat suggested that might help things. Certainly for you. Until he gets his act together, I don't think H is going to be able to have a healthy R with anyone. And you deserve that!!!! Did you get any sleep last night? How are you doing today??? ((((Corey))))

Corey,

Good for you. You laid out your boundary, after much careful consideration and months of his crap, and he willfully crossed it.

Now let the consequences kick in. Something this man needs to have happen in his life -- IN SPADES.

I don't mean to sound flippant, because I can feel your pain thru your posts, but as Larry King would say, "What's the question?" It is done, although you never know what the future may bring if he gets his life right.

Hugs,

Puppy

(((Jeff))) (((Karen))) (((Puppy)))Thank you for all of your posts, guidance and support.

I don't even know why that was the straw that broke the camels back, but I'm done being treated like that. I wouldn't treat someone I disliked the way I have allowed him to treat me, let alone someone I'm supposed to love.

I will be cordial and courteous, but I can't do what I've been doing anymore. I'm only allowing myself to be hurt and I don't choose that anymore.

I actually slept pretty well. I don't get enough sleep because I'm up late doing schoolwork every night, but thats just something I'm going to have to get used to.

Thanks again guys. Corey

Corey,

Once you drop the rope, I think you'll find that it's actually very liberating. It's funny, because nothing really changes in terms of the reality of the situation -- just your "ownership" of it.

Puppy

(((((sugar)))))... you did good! He is really a messed up person.. you don't deserve this kind of treatment , and everyone has there limitations, and with your stitch enough is enough and you have said this to him basically.. you are really going to make him think.

I'd like to give him a good swift kick in the azz for you if I can...