That's the strange part, it's like my parents never listened to what I said that 'we' both did things, I could understand them being upset with W for leaving but to dis you GD like that is unexcuseable. But W is right my dad will just deny it and say he didn't see her.
I agree he was out of line, I don't think my D would make it up, kids just don't do that IMO. Will give it a few days and then decide how best to handle dad. Thanks!
I'm not sure that I can be calm, I know I can be level headed about it. I am really upset with the way my parents have treated W over the years, they judged her incorrectly and she has done nothing but helped them out when it came to getting them the right help in the medical field, they have never thanked her once for what she has done. W says that it hurt her feelings in the beginning, but got over it and does it cause she can and is a giver for the most part. I just realized that this sitch goes much deeper then the incident and I will have to be prepared to handle it accordingly with my parents.
Taking care of 'business' W seems to have backed off abit, so I will tread lightly for the next few days, and hopefully Ian was right in that her threat was just that.
Brian - If there is more to it than we thought, maybe even more reason to discuss it with your W more first and let her lead how you address it. Just a thought, but she might take kindly to that if there is history behind it
W decided to go ahead and begin her day out with coming down on me about the financial situation that 'we' are going through. What started it all off was she printed out a copy of our credit report and saw obviously not a very pretty picture. She starts yellin you haven't paid on a thing since the end of last year WTF were you thinking? I said I had no choice but to prioritize what was important at the point of when you decided what was yours and what was mine and wanted nothing to do with things.
Then she proceeded to say that I never informed her about anything about the finances, I said that is not true but given everything else you might have forgotten. What would I have to gain by not making you aware of our finances? She says this is BS and you never did and I don't believe you. I said look you are angry and pissed she says you bet I am I'm angry at myself for being so stupid, and angry at you for gettin us here, I said you aren't stupid, and I didn't do this on my own, she said well I must be cause I didn't pay attention or something.
She said she has an appointment with her L on Monday and wants all financial info, I said I thought we were in this together, she said oh won't that be fun both of us at my Divorce lawyer. I said you know what I can't talk to you when your like this and I won't either, I hope one day you will realize that maybe you might just be wrong.(yep backslide)
I think you guys have gotten a pretty good handle on what kind of guy I am, certainly not perfect as the lumps on my head can attest to, I have done things wrong in my R I have admitted them here and to W, but I never kept our finances from her it was an open book, I would ask her to help me with it and she would say no its okay I trust you (there is the kicker) her attitude was always one of well if there is money in the account I can spend it. Oh how so untrue.
Just wanted to let you know Brian that I'm reading along but Ian, Mike and Gypsy at the very least appear to have a balanced enough view that hopefully you can sit back and ruminate on a little (not too much! that's bad for the head).
I like Gypsy's suggestion very much of the linking up with W on how to approach your dad. United front to your parents can't help but show you still consider the two of you to be a team, *particularly* where d11 is involved. Ditto to 'it ain't superman time'.
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As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe
