BobbiJo, I am very excited about the new beginning. It is just stressful packing up the past. I already have all my school stuff packed up in the basement and attic(imagine 20years of teaching in boxes). I am also bagging up a lot of stuff to donate, I have a dozen large garbage bags filled. It is getting difficult to keep it all sorted. I was waiting for someone to call for donations, but they were on my street this week and didn't call. UGH! I guess I'll have to take it to goodwill myself. Thanks for the hint about the chucking. I am chucking away!
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
You sound good. If I might offer one suggestion: Tell your husband that you would prefer he not send messages through your kids. Ny him telling your daughter something like that to tell you puts her in a bad place. He can pick up the phone I'm sure.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
You sound good. If I might offer one suggestion: Tell your husband that you would prefer he not send messages through your kids. Ny him telling your daughter something like that to tell you puts her in a bad place. He can pick up the phone I'm sure.
Remember "your game, your rules"
I agree with you completely about the messages Woog. That is how H opperates though. A year ago he complained that we don't communicate, yet he still isn't putting the effort into that. Heck, he told the Ds that I should buy a house without us coming to an agreement on that.
D10 got very upset with him lastnight before he left. I communicated that to him, but he didn't address it. After he left he called me to check on her.
I am trying to write the rules Woog, but you know how men hate to read directions. Ouch!
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
I'm feeling good today Lola. Yesterday I got a little depressed out shopping for things for the house alone. Shame on me...new home, new life...time to be excited.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
You are absolutely right, although it can be bittersweet. I remember when I first moved into my own place, and went shopping. It felt good because I was doing something for myself, and yet I cried after because it was something I really wanted to do with my H, and made everything seem so final...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Tell him the rules. If you have to use a frying pan to make sure he understands them.
Seriously, sit him down and explain that what he is doing only hurts the kids, not you. Send or give him an article about how to be a parent and go through a divorce. He loves his kids. Wake him up.
"Your game, your rules" I love that!!! And my Prince is right again... Sometimes I fear that if I say anything to my stbxH about the kids he will not like, that I will rock the boat... Lately I realised, the only "issue" worth rocking the boat about is "the kids". K
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
