This woman sounds A LOT like my WAW... Let us look at these.....
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* Her xH was emotionally abusive
My exW used that excuse..... I flat out asked her... IF I REALLY was emotionally abusive.... Why did you not ask to go to C.... OR at least mention there were problems....... If I have no clue she feels this way, how in God's green Earth can I fix it? I really think this card is played because they can "claim" it without any real proof..
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* Her xH didn't like her family (parents, sisters etc)
Did he marry her or the family? Last I checked, the H only has to deal with being around them.... H does NOT need to be in love with her family...... If this was a real issue, they should have gone to MC to resolve it... The H NEEDS to realize he is forced to "deal with" her family to some degree... Another aspect of M.....
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* Her xH was sick too often including a bout of lymphoma
WOW! I guess the sickness and in health was lost on her.... I will ask one question.... What if she were married and was diagnosed with breast cancer? Would she think it would be a reasonable reason for her H leaving her? Using her logic, it would be...
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* Her xH yearned a simple life
This is something they could have compromised on in MC..... Maybe, live in a middle of road house instead of a mansion.... Maybe, drive an older luxury car instead of a new one every three years...... To me, this is easily solvable....
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* Her xH once downsized from his corporate career, struggled since to find stable employment and the illness didn't help
I already covered the in sickness and in health aspect... As for the job issues, she has a responsibility as a W to be a partner... If he could not find work in his field, she should have been there to walk him through it....
I am certain he could have found other work... Perhaps, he could have gone to vocational school... He could have found something he could do at home on his own schedule until his health improves...
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* She & xH were just "too different" * She & xH had nothing in common
That is where one needs to realize they made a committment..... They need to figure out how to make it work....... If they have different hobbies, they set aside times to do those things..... However, they need to find hobbies or activities to do together... They can always find these.....
I really just think she is another WAW lacking in commitment and core values..... For myself, I expect so much more than someone who makes excuses when the going gets just a little rough......
Take Care,
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
Thank you for your kind words but really I hate the dating scene and giving up on it worked fine for a while. But after a couple of years, I got lonely and realized that I didn't want to be alone but then again, don't want to be posting in Newcomers either. Thank you all
I don't think any of us are lovin' the dating scene, not where we thought we would be. But we are and there are many on this board who find their way, daily, to a great life. Loneliness does creep in sometimes, it's tough.
After reading this list, what does your gut tell you now? Do you feel differently? Is this R enhancing your life? Does she ever speak about what she contributed to her D?
