Julia: The birthday message was great! It shows you still care, you still remember personal things, but not coming on too strong!! Good job!!!!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Julia: The birthday message was great! It shows you still care, you still remember personal things, but not coming on too strong!! Good job!!!!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I am glad that you had a good weekend and were able to get out of the DIY stuff. The movie and being around your nephews sounds like a lot of fun. I agree that you did a great job with his BD present. I bet he will really appreciate it even if he does not let you see that. I don’t think that it was unfriendly at all. It was just that, friendly, not wifely and that is perfect for now.
Your plan for the week sounds solid. After a week of PMA you will be feeling pretty good getting your pedicure and it won’t matter weather he turns up or not. Good plan!
You are stronger!!
((((Julia))))
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
We are going to figure out your cookie thing! There is nothing like a fresh chocolate chip cookie! I'm guessing it is a recipe translation thing, we were able to make good cookies over there, I'm sure you can, too!
My nephews and I were making bath bombs out of a kit I bought.
Cool, how do you make those? At first I thought it was British sland for water balloons or something. You know, nephews. But then I googled, and it's like bath bubbles, only more exciting and fizzy, right?
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
Oh no, it is way more exciting than a water balloon and less wet on the part of the recipient (which would be me!!). There are some bath bombs that you can buy that when the finish fizzing release stars and things so you can have a bath with stars in it - of course then you have to pick them off you and you find them for days but it was fun at the time lol!
The ones we made weren't that great but it did turn my nephew purple later on that night apparently which he was delighted with and my sister not so!
H update, I sent the text last night saying that the weekend was fine and pre-warning him about the present and posted the gift yesterday so he should receive it. I haven't heard anything in response to it so I figure that perhaps he felt pressured again but there isn't really a lot I can do about that. Of course I realise that is assumed on my part and I don't know...
I just figure that if he wants to sell the house then he has to deal with his feelings about it, I can't do that for him. So I will detach and know that I feel ok about my actions and if it backfires then I shall know that I did what I knew to be right in my heart.
I've also realised that a lot of my tension about everything is to do with a feeling of being frightened of being a failure and having a failed marriage so I am going to try and work on some acceptance. I feel that when I find that I may be able to truly detach. Has anyone else experienced this anxiety of failure?
Hope everyone is having a good day. I just got given a lap top for work which I am very excited about!! I'm playing around with it at the moment!!
I've also realised that a lot of my tension about everything is to do with a feeling of being frightened of being a failure and having a failed marriage so I am going to try and work on some acceptance. I feel that when I find that I may be able to truly detach. Has anyone else experienced this anxiety of failure?
I've played that tune....my W too. I missed it, did you and your H make definitiveplans for the weekend?
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
'Hi H, hope you had a fun weekend. Next weekend is fine for me although I have a few things I have to do so maybe bring your key to be on the safe side. BTW I have popped a card and a small something in the post for your birthday. Enjoy your day tomorrow.'
He hasn't responded yet. I think maybe after our text interaction on friday he got a bit scared off, and also it talks about the birthday present which he won't really know how to handle. I'm going to try not to panic or assume anything. Only he knows why he can't respond to me. I'm not going to push the weekend, if I don't hear back I will just make my own plans and he will have to fit round that. I can't keep my life on hold because he has some issue going on about responding to texts. Also, when I do hang around for him he sees that as pressure so I can't really win. The only thing is it drags things out on my part. If he messes me around about this weekend I will have to address it with him. I'll think about that if it arises.
How did you and your wife overcome your anxiety of failure?
I feel like I am so stupid. I said it all above that. I knew that he would not know how to handle a birthday present but because I wanted to give it to him so badly that is why I did it. I didn't think longer term and I should have done. On Friday when we had text dialogue it was because it was on a neutral subject such as asking for his address and that opened him up a little. This will just have the effect of closing him up and deep down I knew that.
I am wondering if I should send a message apologising but then again I don't want to ruin his birthday even more. Maybe it is best to leave it and chalk it up to experience. I suppose I know for the future, stick to neutral subjects.
You know, nephews. But then I googled, and it's like bath bubbles, only more exciting and fizzy, right?