Leave a brochure out, but be sure not to make the placement obvious or intentional.
Good stuff. My bet is she isn't telling OM about all the texting and such. He lilkey would be quite pissed off. When she's doing things and concealing them from HIM you know you are making some progress.
She's clearly interested. As for hte pastor's comment, this is a confidential discussion, keep it to yourself.
Keep up the good work, you are making a dent in her intentions it looks like.
i don't know the OM, but he comes across as a scaredy cat. i'm not sure if he pressures her. but they tell each other they love each other (i've seen texts)
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
well today went off without a hitch, she came to pick our son up, asked how I was, how my finger was (hurt it at work), and how the appointment went. I told her what we talked about a tiny bit, and then she asked if pastor asked about her and I. I said he did and left it at that. when she leaves i usually give her a hug; she was extremely cordial the whole visit and actually put both arms out to hug me. So i decided to stop texting her and wait for her to get ahold of me; sure enough i got some a lot of texts about random stuff (no R talk) and a "goodnight" just now.
Good job. Just let her continue to initiate communications like this, and respond to her civilly. Do NOT pursue her. If she hugs you, make sure YOU break the hug.
but she is saying things now, like have a good day, and when i go to sleep it's "sleep tight. have a good night." yesterday i answered the phone and she says "are you ok?" genuinely concerned. i must have sounded off; not sure. it feels good to have her like this but I will tell myself its a front.
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
It sounds she's over the "angry stage." She could be acting nice just to make the D easier, but use this to your advantage and try to work on being friends. It's unlikely she's going to change her mind on the D soon so don't expect that. DBing can take a looooong time. Do not pursue.
Definitely don't share anything negative that anyone says about her. You only want her leaving you with positive thoughts.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
