I do better with no communication with spouse, aside from email. As a parent your first concern is the welfare of your child and that he not be caught in the middle. As a mom you protect your child from negative influences. And we all know the importance of children getting their sleep.
Why not tell your son after he is fully awake and refreshed that daddy called before leaving on the airplane and wanted to talk to him. You fulfill your obligations to your little boy, he knows his dad wanted to talk to him and he can decide if he wants to call daddy.
It's a pretty dull way of handling a situation but seems to meet the needs of all.
Why not tell your son after he is fully awake and refreshed that daddy called before leaving on the airplane and wanted to talk to him. You fulfill your obligations to your little boy, he knows his dad wanted to talk to him and he can decide if he wants to call daddy.
I'll pass on the message, S5 is not one for wanting to call his dad.....you know how it's like pulling teeth at this age to carry on a convo. "Fine"...."Played"......
I hadn't planned on answering at all during the trip either. If he had made it a habit to call every day it might be different.
Sunny, your kid should not be used in any way by neither of you. I'd suggest you make him call and leave a message while your H is still on the air.If he calls, let S answer and lock yourself in the bathroom, say "mommy can't come to the phone now" or something similar. Love K
Now how scary is this....I'm about to answer my own post ;-)
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Definitely, S5 is in good hands, why should I have him call or answer when he's off w/OW on another vacation.
It would just be more of the same & he would take it as "Yep, it's still all in my control. I feel much better, especially when I get to ask S5 what's happening at home. So now time to relax, enjoy a margarita & focus on OW."
I would have been a little concerned but the fact that H does not habitualy talk to S every day is good and telling. Good in that you have an excuse , as some stage in the future H will call you on this and accuse you of blocking access to his son or something like that. You can then calmly tell him that he had him the night before he went away and as he does not usualy contact him every day you did not see it as a big deal to ensure that you were home " just in case he called". Telling in that this whole thing realy about wanting contact with you to reasure himself that you are "settled".
He may still have a nice time but its not going to be as easy .
I dont think he is detached from Sunny at all. Now you are Sexy , independent and a CHALLENGE , that = Attractive.
Some would shy away from this but I dont think your H will , I think he is someone who is used to winning and will take up the challenge.
Watch out world, she's answering her own questions! Yay!
Somewhere in DR it talks about viewing your spouse as a neighbor who's an acquaintance. Would you put that much thought about a phone call if it was a neighbor asking?
My therapist also gave me a rule of thumb. If I can't make a decision or waffle about it, my answer is no. I can always go back and reassess, but I have someplace to start out from.
My D who is 6 is just now getting into talking on the phone. She hardly ever asks me to call her Dadddy for her. I think it would be weird if your S5 called his Daddy. I agree with you about the control issue and besides he might think you had S5 call to "check up" on his Daddy.
I agree with Puppy. Only engage in convo if it's about S.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
