Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy Bring on the Rain - Part 4

Sue,

You sound strong. Good for you.

I am going to be away nuntil 8th Aug. I didn't want you to think I wasn't keeping up!!!! Take care....by the time I get back you will have moved.

You are awesome!!!!!

Saffie-

Thanks sweetie!! I know it's probably going to get even more ugly in the next week before it gets better. I just can't take it any more and it amazes me that H thinks I should. Sheila emailed me some thoughts and it really helped. Today's conversation with my H was tough, but I kept thinking about her email and the other ways in which H has continued to let us down, even in the past few days. Not seeing him lift a finger to do anything to get ready for the move and seeing the concert tickets just further push into my mind where his priorities lie and it's not with D4 and I.

I hope that your time off the boards means that you're going on vacation.

Take care!

SueS

Sue, let him sleep in his car. It is his own fault for the mess he is in. You did all the work, let him stew in a soup called consequences. Hugs

kat

Yep. "Never shelter an adulterer from the consequences of their adultery!"

Sue,

i am going on my hols - yippee!!!!!

I agree with the others....let him sleep in the car because soon the only use it will have is as a bedroom!!!

I would love to see you swipe up those Tom Petty tickets and take a girlfriend to the concert. Tell H you thought he got them for you........



He is totally freaking out about HIS choices. They are coming to kick him in the behind. Sue, I know its hard, but I would keep telling him you do not want him to move with you. I let H sleep in his car many nights, remember? It sucked, he b$tched, but whatever.

(((Sue)))

Sue, if you can move and be on your own, think of the freedom. No more listening to him 'downloading' music, no more seeing signs of his infidelity and no more waiting for the garage door.

Oh, that is SO tempting! But you don't want to start a war of sneaky tricks with a person who has no sense of ethics or fairness.

Wow, your H just makes me want to hit something when he pulls junk like this. It is going to be such a huge weight off of your shoulders after you can have some real distance from his craziness - hang in there until then!!! HUGS!

I was just thinking of that the other day - at least I don't have to worry about where he is, who he's with, who's calling, texting, etc. What a relief to at least have that!

And, I did notice that you are in angry mode, too.. Watch out world!!

Rob, I agree. He is still in the nasty/angry/blameSue phase, it just wouldn't be worth it.

Still would be fun though wouldn't it??

Hey there! H and D4 are gone to the park, so I thought I'd take a few minutes here. Nothing said by H when he got home. I was in "cleaning" mode. I'm trying to get some things done tonight, as I'm off tomorrow. My intention is to get a TON of things cleaned and in order. I was sooooo upset last week and just in total upheaval with my emotions. As hard as it will be if I have to again explain to H that it's not right that he goes with us.....this time actually telling him NO, I'm ready again for that peace. I was out of my mind scared last week with my emotions. This week, I'm feeling better. Gee, wonder if it has anything to do with the wonderful posts and emails I've gotten for support . Wish I could just reach out and give you all an actual hug right now. I know that if I ever meet any of you in person I'll probably break down in tears because of all the wonderful support!....Good tears of course!

My family is set to come in town next weekend. I worried about some things with them in town and any interaction with H. I'm moving once again toward looking forward to them coming. All my nieces are coming too. One just turned 18 yesterday and I look forward to doing some birthday stuff with her too. The oldest one will take some time with D4 if she needs it too. I am blessed to have the family I have.

There's a part of me that has been wondering over the past few days if I should initiate any contact with my FIL. He knows we've been having problems, but not to what extent. I love my FIL and I know he'll understand why I can't allow H with me, but let's face it, when it comes down to it, H is still his son. My FIL told me on my 40th b-day.....Sue, I think I know what he's up to again....Honey, please don't take it from him anymore. Maybe I'll see how things go over the next month and I'll reach out to him later. I will have a relationship with him due to D4. I know that at least for a while anyway, I'll be his main contact with her. I can't think of the last time H called him so he could talk to D4.

Well, time to get busy. Have a good evening!!

SueS