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I agree with Pisces. You did GREAT when you were with her, and I know seeing her looking so good was hard. But take your experience here and let that help you look at it as a positive that she's getting in great shape:

I've been getting into great shape, too, and it mostly has to do with feeling good about MYSELF. She probably wants to start school feeling as good as she can. And you know that she's been in a lot of pain as well. Self-esteem for a lot women is tied very closely to appearance, so it makes a lot of sense that she would view working out as a way to feel better about herself.

Plus, she might have thinking the same exact thing about you,"Wow, he looks great!"

Aarrgh! Hard to type as BOTH my cats are trying to sit on my lap at the same time, so I'm forced to type at arms' length.

diving was amazing. that is something that i use to do three or four times a week until work became so busy that there was never time. also it was something we use to do together. it was so nice to be back under the water. I think that i am going to go do it agian in the morning before I take off. after diving my friends and I went to a horse race. that was also a lot of fun!!

today was a great day for GAL and PMA!!

GOOD JOB!

where do you dive?
you sounds so much better- its good to hear you have great friends and fun stuff to do! keep it up....

Woot! Woot! So glad you had a great day, you deserve it.

Sunday was as good as the rest of the weekend. We for another dive then out to lunch with some very supportive friends. Although they are mad at W they are supportive of my plan and actions. Then I drove back to see her. We played with the dog at the park for an hour. That was very nice; we talked an entire hour about the other dogs in the park. It was very relaxed and fun.

This is kind of strange but worked out well. When I was diving I found a little kids toy truck. The kind that is only about two inches big. We use to always collect weird things we find down there so I picked it up. I told her that I had a present for her and she got a bit weird but then I gave her that. She seemed taken back because it was strange and not some sappy thing. She took it gratefully and really seemed to like it then back in the house it went up on her bookcase.

We went to dinner and really really enjoyed each other. It was like we were out two years ago, nothing to fight about just chatting. We joked and talked about work and school. I could tell she had a really good time the two times we saw each other this weekend. When it was time for me to leave she was not throwing me out. I had a long drive ahead and wanted to get to bed at a descent hour, but had we had another activity planned we could have done that too and had a good time.

At dinner I was so at peace. For those 40 mins nothing in the world mattered. I was enjoying the company of the person that I care for the most in this world and she seemed to enjoy me as well.

I am probably reading into this if not making it up. Still no ring on her finger witch I hate, but several times in the car and at dinner she seemed to be hiding her left hand, like she did not want me to see that or it made her uncomfortable. Not sure maybe in my head but it seemed deliberate.

Her folks are going to visit her next weekend and the weekend after she agreed to come up her for a friend’s bbq. It was sort of a bribe, that friend just finished law school and is giving her a bunch of text books. Plus we will exchange the puppy that weekend, so two weeks until we meet again.

Last note. When I got home I decide to tell her I was there safely. I have always done this after a drive and do it to anyone I visit. Even when she was not talking to me she still sent me a "here safe" text on a long drive. So I figured it could not hurt. It said "home safe good night :o)" and that was it. Never expected a replay. I instantly got ":o)" back. This is a tiny baby step but it made me feel great, she never replies to my texts. I sent her one on sat with now reply but she did ask about it on Sunday, so that was good too.

Ok next two weeks are all about ME!! No stressing worrying or wondering. If she wants to miss out on all the cool things we do here that is her problem but I won't. I realized did a lot of stressing over little things and they were starting to rule my life.

so I will run, hit the gym, ride my bike, play my guitar, work on my mustang, and enjoy friends, I will act as if we are good she is busy in school and can't be bothered for a bit because I know when I get to see her next.

JWS,

Good for you! I am with some of the others....she might have seemed happy because she was happy to see you. Keep up the work....you are doing well. You did great on your get togethers....you made it a light and fun time where you could enjoy each other :-)....something she will likely want more of

thanks TD

I think it was something she could want more of :o)

I am starting a new thread. I hate it when they lock with out me being able to end it witha link to the new one, so i will make this preemptive.

Anxiously awaiting long term Patience!!

see you there!!