Maybe talking about small things like this is better than every interaction being about how the other person is etc. Building up a rapport again.
You are on a roll!!!! keep at it. Small talk leads to dialog, which leads to have fun around one another...and it is non threatening and light which in turn is comfortable...you want him to be comfortable around you in person and texting
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Yes it is Julia. Sometimes it is the small things that keep us going, and just give us an excuse to continue on speaking! It doesn't necessarily matter what the content of the convo is, as long as there was one!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
No, I have let go of a bit anger I think this week. Let's hope it stays that way. I am feeling a bit fragile, I think a bit of shell shock from last night, but coping with these shocks a lot better than I used to. I'm pleased my h sent me that text this morning, he felt 'safe' enough to do it and that is my aim.
It does get easier, doesn't it? You think it never will, and then all of a sudden...it is. I think it's about letting go of any expectations that your H will act like your H, that you can take nothing for granted anymore. Nothing at all.
And sometimes they have to demonstrate over and over again that you can't before we believe it. For me, it's been like someone prying something out of my cold, dead hand.
But you--you are making progress!
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
Hey girl I'm sorry I've been gone for a little while. I'm still catching up on your thread but I can tell just from what I've read so far that you are making awesome strides!!!!
It is totally about playing it cool. I even think of it as "The Cool Game". It's totally ridiculous and it makes me laugh, but it's the way we gotta roll!!!
I have to tell you too that I am reading "Passionate marriage" by David Snartch and it is totally blowing my mind!!!!!!!! I really recommend that you get it and then we can discuss!!! it is very compatible with DB, but gives a bunch of new tools for growing.
Yeah, quite nice. On Friday I went to see a film in 3d which was quite weird but really good. Saturday I spent by myself pottering around the house, playing with my cat and walking around the local area. I'm really pleased that the prospect of a day by myself in the house no longer scares me. Then on Sunday I went up to my sisters as it was my nephews birthday so that was fun, if mildly stressful! My nephews and I were making bath bombs out of a kit I bought.
Overall though a good weekend. I'm going to send the text message tonight to my h so will see what happens with that...
I'm going to do stuff for me this week to try and get the best PMA for the weekend. The good thing about the weekend is that I have a pedicure booked on Saturday that my friend bought me for my birthday so I have that to look forward to, so whether my h turns up or not I have a special treat booked for myself and if he does turn up then I will just go to it anyway and show GAL.
Luckily I got out of the DIY with my other sister as she decided to have a weekend off from it!
Just wanted to check with you guys as it makes me feel better... I was thinking of what to write in my h's birthday card and came up with this to send with the shaving voucher.
Dear H
Thought this was quite 'Bugsy Malone'! Happy Birthday
Julia
Three 180s here. 1. My wording is not 'loaded in any way'. 2. I sign it from me, with my name - since the split I have done everything from my cat or signed 'me'. I hope this shows some detachment and independence. 3. There is no 'love Julia'. Although I would sign 'love' as a matter of course to any friend.
Is it a bit unfriendly? I seem to over do things at the moment but I don't want to go the other way! I thought I thought I would add the Bugsy Malone bit as it is one of his favourite musicals...
Sorry to be so paranoid but as contact is so limited at the moment I want to get things as right as I possibly can.
Appreciate all your input as always (((everyone)))
