Anyone dealing with a spouse who is DB'ing them as well? I'm almost through with DR and I realized that he has been dealing with a MLC now for the last 5 years. What do I do about that?
Me - Faithful wife H - WAH Bomb: Fall/2009 - PA/EA with OW for 1 year Both in our early 40's M - 16 years w/ no kids T - 21 years Separated since July of 2008 - H living with his mother
Have a lot of patience. I just finished reading the MLC portion as well, and realized that it does sound like my H. Of course, my H is not DBing...
I am not sure what to do when both are DBing...enjoy it???
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
The patience thing really is hard. I've come to realize that most of his head and this separation revolves around his issues, not me. I feel like the scapegoat, however. What else can I do besides giving him his space and GAL? This sucks.
I can only presume that he is DBing me. He took the DB book with him when he left. I have the DR book which he doesn't know about. Ha! I'm not sure he is smart enough to know that I am DBing. It could be he is so aloof because our MC said to not have contact except for once a week or if something truly needs our attention like my Dad's surgery yesterday. I have to stop obsessing and picking apart every (limited) conversation and action to try to gauge where his head is. He just isn't that deep anyway.
My biggest fear is that he truly wants a D, but is trying to let me down easy because he is a HUGE conflict avoider. The thought of D scares me more than anything ever has...and I have truly been through the ringer on more than one occasion.
Me - Faithful wife H - WAH Bomb: Fall/2009 - PA/EA with OW for 1 year Both in our early 40's M - 16 years w/ no kids T - 21 years Separated since July of 2008 - H living with his mother
