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There you go. It will be something new to have turtle cheesecake while you are dark. Honestly, when was the last time you had any?

KJ - If you don't mind I want in on your DB challenge and I know exactly what I'm going to do. As part of my GAL'n I've been buying blu-ray movies. I have about 15 of them that I haven't watched yet. Every night my W sits down to watch TV with me I ask her if she wants to watch one and she says no and I just give in and watch her crap. Tonight it's 180 city - if she says no I am going to get up and take one downstairs to watch by myself.

What are you going to do??

Hi Wifey,
Thanks so much for visiting my thread and, especially for your compliments. I had been reading your posts for a while and was really impressed at how well YOU were DB. I never posted to your thread since although our situations had many commonalities yours seemed so much more positive. Your H is not actively backing away and that gives you so much to work with.

I had to smile when I read that you use barbless hooks when fishing. When I was young I would go "fishing" with my brother and was content to just sit on the bridge holding a fishing rod with a line that had neither bait nor hook.

I'm glad you found your camping trip to be a renewing experience. I'm thinking I'll go again before too long. There are a few of us LBS of the feminine variety who have recently rediscovered our "inner Girl Scout".

Hey Wifey,

I just wanted to stop by and say thank you for visiting my thread today and for your support. I have some catching up to do on your sitch, but wanted to say that you sound really together- a regular DB poster girl!!

Lisa xx

OMG you guys,

I want in on this thread. I must tell you that my H and I went to the bank together today to cash our tax rebate check. He could barely look me in the eyes, and as soon as he gave me my share of the money, I said goodbye and got out. As I was getting out, he said "Goodbye Suzanne, be careful." He always used to say that. In fact, we would say it to each other. Anyway, I didn't say anything back to him and as soon as I got in my own car, I started to cry.

Then, I called him when I was on my way home, but our call got dropped. So, I tried about a half hour later, when I got home and he didn't answer. It upset me. He did call me right back and left a message that he was on the phone. I did not pick up.

That was at 5:30 p.m. It's now 6:22 p.m. and he has called back on my cell phone three more times, and once on the home phone. I'm going dark tonight. Help, I need some encouragement. LOL

S

Oh, btw, Wifey, you've been a great inspiration for me. Thank you so much for your input on my thread!

Suzanne....you CAN DO IT GIRL!

Just deep breathe and hang on tight...I know it's so hard, but you can do it!!

Bliss

Wifey --

Never made to the cheesecake. I'm coming down with a cold and/or sinus infection and I don't want to waste the cheesecake experience if I can't even taste it.

Stayed home sick today. Sinus/fever and dizziness. Well, even more dizzy than normal.

I hope you enjoyed the ice cream.

Oh my God, what a night. I didn't eat ice cream. I had wine instead. : )

I mowed the front lawn when I got home because it was so long. The h doesn't like me to use his ancient mower, but he's been riding the motorcycle so much and it was so long, so I just did it. I like to mow the lawn!

He never said a thing about the lawn when he came home. He may have thought S19 did it because he was home when h came in after 9. I hadn't planned to engage him if he brought it up.

Anyhow, after I mowed I grilled hot dogs and S and I ate them with mac salad, chips and dip. Then he helped me study for my math class. He helped me so much. I honestly was lost before he helped me.

It felt really good to understand the math and feel confident. So I was pretty detached and feeling good when H came home.

S left to go to Starbucks with a friend. I continued with math and h watched tv. I asked if he got my email. Said he did and he appreciated it.

Then he asked about yesterday where I said I was grateful that I found I didn't like roller coasters. I told him it meant the rollercoaster I am living on.

I think he understood after a bit. First there was a deer in the headlights look.

Then I said that it doesn't mean I don't want to ml with you. That I don't understand it myself but that I wanted to the minute he walked in the house.

At that point he gave me a sheepish grin and opened up his arms to me. Lets just say he was receptive and we ml. Not exactly the DB I planned for, but it was wonderful.

I didn't eat the ice cream, that will have to wait. This morning I gave a very DB have a nice day last night was great as he went out the door.

He said ILY and gave me a hug. I could tell he wanted to say something more but he just left. The confusion on his face was evident. He kept looking at me a minute like why do you still love me? Why do you want to ml when I have hurt you? At least thats what I read there - could be completely wrong of course!

I have a new wind beneath my wings and feel strong. I am still loving even in the face of the pain. I am choosing to love and to give. Yes, there is risk. He could still decide he doesn't want to be with me.

I feel good though. I am DB'ing and loving at the same time. It feels right to me somehow.

That type of DB'ing would work for me. Sure beats the NyQuil and bed at 9.

mrz99

Thanks for checking in on me. This BB really is a Godsend!