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wow.....page 13 of this thread will now come to be known as "Godsend advice"

Are there any youth programs at your church? Like basketball teams for kids or something that you can volunteer to coach at?

Do something fatherly that will attract her to you ok? Think like a single woman..most women would MELT to see a guy volunteering at a church, coaching young kids how to play basketball, etc...you need to romance her socks off right now...that would be aces.

You could also do some work with the elderly, but I think you coaching basketball at church would be aces really...find out from your church what programs they are running and toss them up here, we will find you the best one to volunteer at.

Hunh? You lost me.

i meant page 13 of this thread was the best so far, incredible advice

church has basketball, a soup kitchen from time to time, rummage sale, "oktoberfest" coming up (arts and crafts made by the church community

i will probably only have 1 chance for her to listen to everything I have to say...mark could you possibly make all your points into one coherent statement ? I get so nervous when talking to her, afraid i'll blow it, and if i just start rattling items off like they're listed, it'll sound rehearsed and not straight from heart to mouth.

also one thing you didn't touch on. every conversation we've had since earlier today she brings up how i won't grant a divorce. i know when i tell her " i only want to do what's best for our family" she will say "well then agree to the divorce" then what do i say ?

Agree to a divorce? Do you have a choice? When I got served there was no choice.

If I were in your shoes I'd probably just change the subject or say something like, "Of course I will when I get a chance...don't worry it will get done..." and then, I'd just be "too busy" to finish off any of the D stuff, while trying to reestablish a friendship with my H. How long does does divorce take in your state?

runningout,

we went to mediation.. she stated she had her mind made up and I wanted to work this out. I have 90 days i'm assuming but she could file at any time. she didn't file immediately because a)lawyers cost more than she has or b)in mediation topics such as adultery don't come up, but they do in a regular D with lawyers. I have up to 2 years before the state makes the D finalized.