No, she hasn't. Because you still live together. And I'm surprised she's OK with that, but it's a good thing.
I wouldn't rush the "splitting things up" stage, like the truck. Somehow you'll have to decide who gets it, etc. That was the most painful part of all this for me. I have no idea about Canada, but here in Texas the name it's in doesn't matter. All property acquired during the marriage gets split.
Well she mentioned when she broke down crying last week she has thought of leaving and giving me everything. But she hasn't.. again last night we watched a movie, got along super... i don't call her at all anymore during the day, unless it's to make arrangements for the dogs/cats to get fed. I was surprised at her reaction when i told her "some girl gave me a box of protein bars at work, just as a friendly gesture because they made her ill" she replied" i was going to say SOME girl!!" ... i kept quiet..
Here in this province (Alberta), everything is 50-50 regardless as well...i don't want the truck anyways it's too expensive to fill up lol (i'd rather we stay together and share both car and truck)
anyways her sister is coming to the house tonight to get pointers on her resume, she sent me email asking " are you ok?" i replied to the other questions but pretended i didn't even read that, truth is I am great... but missing one thing..
Jon why did you find it painful splitting stuff? I view it as "only stuff" .. but that's just me and i might see it different in the future.
Jon why did you find it painful splitting stuff? I view it as "only stuff" .. but that's just me and i might see it different in the future.
Not to speak for Jon, but I found it really painful too. I think for me it was so painful because with no kids, the finances and stuff were our only ties. I felt like once all the "stuff" was split there would be no excuse for interaction.
Jon why did you find it painful splitting stuff? I view it as "only stuff" .. but that's just me and i might see it different in the future.
Not to speak for Jon, but I found it really painful too. I think for me it was so painful because with no kids, the finances and stuff were our only ties. I felt like once all the "stuff" was split there would be no excuse for interaction.
The hard part will be splitting up our 2 dogs and 2 cats, the 2 dogs play together all the time as do the cats... the couches/tables/dishes to me are just stuff.. but that's just the new me, the old me was attached to material stuff. Please don't take that the wrong way.
I don't think W quite knows what could be coming down the road in the next few weeks. I am debating dropping the house price dramatically, moving out and moving on. As much as I love W, Saturday will be 2 months. I know the 48 hour rule, and will follow it to a tee.. just sayin..
W keeps telling me " i am doing such and such on saturday, and then on sunday i am doing this" .. why does she keep telling me if she hates me so much and wants to end everything..
I don't think W quite knows what could be coming down the road in the next few weeks. I am debating dropping the house price dramatically, moving out and moving on. As much as I love W, Saturday will be 2 months. I know the 48 hour rule, and will follow it to a tee.. just sayin..
I know this is hard, but 2 months is not really that long. She has to believe your changes are permanent. You spend some time together so you are making progress...walking, watching movies, etc. I know MichelleLT and myself went about 2 months with absolutely no contact.
How would you cover the loss on the house if you dramatically drop the price? Just don't make any knee jerk decisions. Patience is hard....but this is a long, slow road.
Hang in there. I know she has filed, but how long is the D process in Canada?
I don't think W quite knows what could be coming down the road in the next few weeks. I am debating dropping the house price dramatically, moving out and moving on. As much as I love W, Saturday will be 2 months. I know the 48 hour rule, and will follow it to a tee.. just sayin..
I know this is hard, but 2 months is not really that long. She has to believe your changes are permanent. You spend some time together so you are making progress...walking, watching movies, etc. I know MichelleLT and myself went about 2 months with absolutely no contact.
How would you cover the loss on the house if you dramatically drop the price? Just don't make any knee jerk decisions. Patience is hard....but this is a long, slow road.
Hang in there. I know she has filed, but how long is the D process in Canada?
The process is 1 year.. we have to be "seperate and/or living apart for 1 year" , here since we are in seperate rooms, we are considered seperated.
Today realtor called and said there is an urgent showing of our home.. guess we shall see how it pans out, i might be living alone soon.
Yes 2 months seems like an eternity.. I feel like an alien almost.. no family here so i haven't really had any physical contact for awhile. (I am a physical kind of person, that's why when W does my hair or similar things, it's huge i get a little bit of contact)
To cover the loss isn't something i want to think of. I'll worry about it when and if the time comes. Maybe today is the day the house gets an offer we can't refuse.
I am now going to Anchorage next week instead of Washington.. cool..
