Thank you for the kind uplifting words. I may get addicted to this place just cause it makes me feel so good to come here & have nice people say nice things. xoxo
Neil, I wasn't offended. I don't get offended very easily. I just wanted to expound a bit. No worries, & no apology needed. I realize that when a lot of the LBS's are speaking here, they aren't talking about me. They're talking about their sitch & others like them. It just resonated with me, & so I decided to share. Hugs.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Sounds like a good day. It's funny how much fear can dictate your life until you take the power away from it. It's especially lovely that your husband chose to be a husband rather than an authority figure once you were able to show you were willing to make decisions that didn't include him.
Did you ever stop to think of what a precious jewel you are. Aside from you external beauty, your giving nature, your bullheaded tenaciousness to do everything, you have this wonder that is you.
I'm so happy that I get to see that part evolve and blossom.
Here's to you being good to yourself.. for treating yourself like your best friend.
*hugs*
Hi Gypsy K, it was a good day. I spent over 2 hours helping S9 clean his bedroom, then sorting thru his hand-me-downs. He's growing so darn fast. Everything he owns is too short all the sudden. It wasn't that fun doing it, but walking into a sparkling clean bedroom, WOW !
It's so wonderful that you & I are evolving at the same time. Learning to make decisions. Learning not to be afraid. You teach me so much by your example.
Hugs.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
...My brain needs to just coast & absorb everything. But, I'll make a list of books to read in the near future.... Maybe I'm just not there yet. Which is okay. I'm happy with my progress.
I understand completely. The book I am reading now talks about being sexual without intercourse. Bath night is a good example of this. Other ideas??? --> Get some good smelling massage oil and have massage night. Things I like that W never did for me, running hands though my hair, scratching my back, foot massage.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I understand completely. The book I am reading now talks about being sexual without intercourse. Bath night is a good example of this. Other ideas??? --> Get some good smelling massage oil and have massage night. Things I like that W never did for me, running hands though my hair, scratching my back, foot massage.
I don't know about your bath night, but mine definitely includes intercourse.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
...It wasn't that fun doing it, but walking into a sparkling clean bedroom...
Why not make it fun???
One part that was fun was finding all the cool things S had "lost", & looking at his art work from kindergarten. Also, running across his kindergarten school ID. He was sooooooo adorable with his hair all spiked up. He's growing up way too fast.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
The book I am reading now talks about being sexual without intercourse. Bath night is a good example of this. Other ideas??? --> Get some good smelling massage oil and have massage night. Things I like that W never did for me, running hands though my hair, scratching my back, foot massage.
what book is it R2C?
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe
No worries, & no apology needed. I realize that when a lot of the LBS's are speaking here, they aren't talking about me. They're talking about their sitch & others like them. It just resonated with me, & so I decided to share. Hugs.