I'll tell you flat out regardless of what it says in DR or what others have posted on here. If I did not post online and if I simply stayed totally dark on her she would just get pushed right into this OM. - Scott
But the thing is no matter what you do she may wind up with the OM. That's out of your control really. So I suggest detaching and continuing the GALing, new activities are really good, try a new sport or hobby or whatever and try to get immersed in that. Someone (I think Theoden) posted to me in the beginning of my first thread that I have to be ready to live life without my H and be ok with that (something like that) and I remember thinking, No way, I can't live without him!!! but I've really DBd and GALed and worked on myself and now I believe I will be happy without him (or with him) whatever happens. Of course, I think that took me about 5 months or so, but something you could work on as well? Also, I do agree with what ROOT said about the gift/book as well...Karen
