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(((MaryAngela))) (((Tal))) thanks to both of you for posting. I'm not sure whats going to happen, although I do know that no matter what after we get the legal stuff out of the way the kids and I will be able to breathe that much easier.

I have no idea why someone would want to have a baby with another womans' husband other than just desperation to continue the R or to force him to choose, neither of which have happened. If H ever does get cleaned up and gives up gambling, OW will be gone too. That is where they met and spend most of their time together. Maybe they will have other interests that will bind them if either chooses to get better, but like most addicts, once they start to move away from the addiction, the people that they associated with during that phase have to go.

Sick people do some of the stupidest things. Oh well, I can't control it, I just have to get out of the way and let whatever happens, happen.

((((((S^2))))))

I am glad things are moving with the legal stuff. That will definitely be a lot of stress off you.

Hang in there!

(((Michelle))) the legal stuff is moving because I'm pushing it. H keeps procrastinating because he spends all of his $$$ at the cardroom.

We just got into it a little bit because I asked him how much $$ was left out of the refi money and he got really pissy and said about $900.00 and I told him it pissed me off that he would loan OW $$ from there to get through until payday but he wouldn't use that $$ to file and protect me and the kids. He then tells me that I have to pay for 1/2 of it and would rather wait until he gets paid. I asked him what the difference would be? If I have to pay for 1/2 of it anyway, lets just f*cking get it done. I'm so sick of this $hit. If we do it on his timeline, the damn house will be gone...F*cktard.

He pisses me off. Why do I have to look like the bad guy pushing this along when we are in this mess because he used the little brain?

I'm just tired of doing this everyday...

(((((Corey)))))

You just look like the sane one, from here! You are not going to look like the bad guy to anyone that matters. Please, just do what you have to do. Let him live in a cardboard box, you don't have to!

(((Jeff))) I'm just having a hard time tonight. I'm just not sure how much longer I'm going to be able to do this, its just too painful.

Yep! My H has one or two loser enabler friends that think he's a good guy (maybe a little anyway) but everyone else knows or has figured out the truth (say they think he's crazy, dumb, MLC or whatever). I think that's probably how it usually goes...

(((((Corey))))) You are such a great, strong person. I'm so sorry you're going through so much pain now. I know it will get better for you!!!

(((((((Corey)))))))

Do what you have to do now, then drop the rope, for real. It's DBing, it's not giving up. But, you have to let him go. And then just live for you and D. He's going to have to sink or swim on his own. And I think there's going to be a lot of sinking before there is swimming. But, if you try to rescue him, he's going to pull you right under with him. Get the LS, and let go. You have a bunch of friends who will stick with you. And some of them are close enough for real hugs, if you need them.

(((Karen))) (((Jeff))) You are both right. I haven't ever really put much of what DB says to practical use. I think that in the big picture, thats what its going to take. I can't save him, hes either going to have to save himself or not.

I can't believe how many friends I have here.

Don't forget it, Corey. We will be here!

I won't, thanks and you know that the same goes for all of you.